And it's got to be a good hustle, not something you should've seen through in 10 seconds.
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I've been hustled once... Almost. It was pretty good.
At work I was on the register (grocery store worker) and a guy comes up talking really fast with just a pack of gum, a 20, a 5, and a bunch of quarters. Basically all at once he gave me the 20 to pay with, wanted a 4 dollars in quarters and a dollar in nickels and dimes (from the remaining one) and wanted to turn his quarters into a few dollars. He also said that all at once. I think he was expecting me to get confused, I almost was when I thought about it too much, but I decided to just to one thing at a time. I took his 20 to pay with, and gave him his change. Then as I started doing the other stuff he said "whoa whoa I'm using the five to pay with, I didn't mean to give you that 20, can I have it back?" after I have given him his change and the coins for his 5. Things weren't really connecting and I said "Uh... I gave you your change for the 20. Give me it back and I'll-" Then he took his stuff and his quarters and sped off just saying "I've gotta go".
Man. That guy was talking at a million miles per hour!
Some guy tried to scam the small diner I worked at in high school. He came into the store when I wasn't there (the only employees were the two owners who were bf and gf and myself (yeah, real small diner) and told the owners that he had called and spoke to me about a large take-out order that was screwed up and I had given attitude and refused to resolve their issue (complete BS, I didn't even answer the phone there ever). He wanted what he claimed was "his" money back. Yeah, the order had never happened nor had the phone call. People that do this stuff genuinely piss me off.
A few years ago in my local bar (it was very local), I noticed a guy who I'd never seen before, sipping on half a pint of cheap beer. Nothing particularly unusual there. A girl had come into the pub, claiming she had just finished at an "exhibition" and was selling some top-rate Japanese knives. She asked the punters at the bar if anyone had heard of Ninja Knives (or some such) and this stranger guy pipes up, "Yeah, they're really good knives - expensive too!". They were foiled not by lack of gullability, more the lack of culinary expertise: Jason, the barman, claimed "even my bin has ulcers". Classic shill and con-girl selling cheap rubbish as quality gear.
Nope. Never been scammed but I don't rule out the possibility.
In Thailand, I got hustled good by a taxi driver once. Pissed me off, he managed scam the equivilant of $50 dollar(AUS) of me, with the no change line. So as I was plucking through my wallet to get the right change, he snatched the note off me as I was giving him the right money, and wouldn't give it back. I asked him for it back and he told me he didn't know what I was talking about, and then preceeded to ignore me. In the end I gave it up, 'cos I was going to miss my flight otherwise. I managed to get through the whole month there without being scammed (as far as I'm aware) up until that point.
Currently submerged under an avalanche of books and paper work. I may come back up for air from time to time.
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Nope. Combination of being a quick thinker, and intimidating to those who don't know me/I don't like, has kept it from happening. (Mostly because if you start to annoy/bother me, my facial expression is something along the lines of a cross between a robot, and an angry serial killer....and I'm 6' 2" and decently strong).