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    Quote Originally Posted by htb View Post
    Short of modifying the way in which men and women normally relate to each other, no.

    Welcome to life, Mouseketeer!
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    *stabs htb*

    *glomps niffer*

    You can't help that (like just about every ENFP) you're awesome and boys crush on you.

    I do, however, support your intentions mentioned above. I hope you can pull it off...

    Since I'm not a female and have no clues about how female relationships work, particularly for extroverts, I don't have any recommendations.
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    ha
    Actually htb is exactly on the money when implying that no, you cannot change the way other people behave. That is a difficult lesson, and an important one to learn. All we can do is accept disappointment and learn how to adapt our own behavior. When someone gets the idea they are going to have our affections, and then that falls through, they can become downright mean. Nothing wrong with learning to face disappointments early on.

    Unfortunately it will be a precious rare 13-year-old boy who can understand a vivacious, happy, flirtatious process of a lovely girl falling in love with him as a friend while his hormones are raging. This is a scenario with a rather predictable outcome. It's unfortunate, but i don't see it changing any time soon.
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    I would recommend wearing clothing made of shanks of rotting meat.

    You could also refuse to hang around any members of the male gender you find unattractive. (This is actually a pretty popular approach, as I recall.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by niffer View Post
    I wasn't real happy with the term 'mousketeer' either, nif. It suggests way too much.

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    It's apt, Oberon, for a kid who doesn't understand why young fellows want to be her "friend."

    Quote Originally Posted by toonia View Post
    This is a scenario with a rather predictable outcome. It's unfortunate, but i don't see it changing any time soon.
    Indeed. I can't think of a single acquaintance of mine from those years, with a girl, during which one of us did not harbor some sort of interest for more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by targo View Post
    I don't know what it is with enfp's at Niffers age and having 'girl friends' but it seems to be an impossible task. You may have one or two but a whole group (which is what you crave) it just doesn't seem to happen.

    I don't understand why but it it doesn't seem to be until you're older that you find the female friends....
    Yeah, what's that all about? I've always had a much harder time striking up friendships with girls than guys (it's improved a bit over the last few years, though).

    In regards to the whole "just friends" thing, I've given up. I've known quite a few people who couldn't see me, but instead saw something they could theoretically "date". It's bloody annoying, but it's their loss. I have no good advice (although I think the situation gets better as people mature).

    edit: not to imply that my "not being seen as me" issue is the same as your issue, Niffer
    Last edited by Vortex; 09-04-2007 at 03:09 PM. Reason: clarification

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    Just out of curiosity, why are you opposed to dating?
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    Start a rumor that you're a lesbian. Problem solved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Naem View Post
    Start a rumor that you're a lesbian. Problem solved.
    Funny that you mention this. My ISTJ friend is trying to trick people into thinking that she's lesbian with me (neither of us are). She's doing this experiment for two months to see how people react to a real-life case of open homosexuality.
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