And how would you advise one to be more assertive?
I'm sure you've looked at a few people and cursed under your breath about how they ought to grow a pair. Hell, when living out my ETJ shadow during stressful periods, I've looked at a few people and thought that they ought to grow a pair. Currently, I'm one of those people that ought to... you know.
I find it very hard to strike a balance between being nice and being assertive and I often veer between being
never says no to anythingvery nice and a total jerk. I can't just be assertive. I don't know how.
My office is filled with ETs and EJs with the accompanying forceful personalities and, many a time, I find myself doing something I'd rather not do because I find it hard to say no. I'm in sales and marketing whereby social skills and 'team spirit' are appreciated greatly hence I can't be brusque or I might find myself being 'eased out' pretty soon. The funny thing is that I've noticed the (negative) correlation between how helpful I am and the respect that I get.
So yeah, assertive but nice... how...?