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    Minister of Propagandhi ajblaise's Avatar
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    Ghandi got a lot done. But something tells me he had quite the attitude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    Ghandi got a lot done. But something tells me he had quite the attitude.
    agreed lol... gandhi was the fucking man. you can be nice, have an attitude and get things done.
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    I say yes, you can be nice, and get things done.

    In fact, if you're really effective with your soft skills, people want to do things to help out.

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    Nice doesn't equal doormat

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    You can, but you have to make clear to all concerned that you are capable of not being nice if people screw you. Basically, people have to realize that they can't walk all over you.
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    Sure, in fact it is sometimes MORE effective if you are nice.

    If you are too nice, though, people do not take you seriously.
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    Yes, you generally get things done more efficiently if you are nice. But nice does NOT equal lenient/lazy.

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    I utilized my "nice" skills last week to motivate a person I had never met to do a task for me that is supposed to take 10 days ... in only 2 hours ...

    I'm just sayin' ... you catch more flies with honey than vinegar!

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    Quote Originally Posted by wolfy View Post
    I say no.

    We were having this discussion at home as to whether you can be nice.
    Nice as in pleasant.

    nice
    ?
    1. pleasing; agreeable; delightful: a nice visit.
    2. amiably pleasant; kind: They are always nice to strangers.

    pleasant

    ? ?
    1. pleasing, agreeable, or enjoyable; giving pleasure: pleasant news.
    2. (of persons, manners, disposition, etc.) socially acceptable or adept; polite; amiable; agreeable.


    I swing from being nice most of the time to being... not nice and getting a lot done .

    What do you think?
    You're generally correct. Niceness is pleasant and it doesn't initially aid achievement as much as direct confrontation and conflict.

    Niceness is opposite but needed for progress. Like good and evil need each other (don't make that connection though). Niceness or pleasantness restores people back to a positive and secure attitude.

    That is why conquers need a celebration.

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    You can be "nice" and have people like you
    or you can get things done.

    There's always some sort of balance between the two, but the most efficient way of doing things is to put any "niceness" aside.

    nice question.

    EDIT: On another thought, manipulation and kindness are two different things entirely. It all depends on who you're working with and/or against and how to best handle them. Be "nice" and get them to do what you want or be straightforward or even "menacing" in a way to get them to work hard.
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