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Thread: Who here in real life is an outcast?

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    Intriguing.... Array Quinlan's Avatar
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    I don't think I've been cast out of anything, maybe a few pubs?

    I don't have a lot of friends, but then I don't go out of my way to make or maintain friendships either.

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    I have had lots of friends in my life at different times but now have very few. In high school I felt like an outcast but that was mainly my own doing, now that I look back.

    Nope, not an outcast. But when we were younger, my INTJ brother and me agreed that we felt like aliens from another planet. At that time, I did truly feel that way...

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    my biggest issue is being a terrible "flex". Often ill be bored, with nothing to do on weekend... but the problem is that im often not willing to sacrifice during the week:

    -hate working out with the other people (im gonna do what I want to do, because i already researched it and i dont want to compromise on some stupid exercise you want to do)
    -hate making small talk over lunch (think ur avg lunchtime at any level of schooling)
    -hate drinking for no reason (like ill enjoy a drink with a few friends and a meal, but im bored by the idea of 'well we could just get hammered!')
    -im not very good with women, and other males probably sense this, thinking that i hurt their chances by association...

    i think its mainly that im too shallow to just give up all of my pride by hanging out with nerdier people who might actually understand me better. However, im not quite shallow enough to get the attention of the more normal people...
    so then i just ride about in no mans land.

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    Earth Exalted Array Thursday's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by SurlyAdam View Post

    You're too young to be outcasts. You're just angst-ridden. You have no idea what it's like to be truly vilified.
    - we youngstas like to think we're unique and victimize ourselves
    I N V I C T U S

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    My goal before I graduate is to make at least 5 friends and actually contact them outside of school.

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    Alexander the Terrible Array yenom's Avatar
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    you should not be ashamed of being a loner. Alot of people are loners in real life...
    Find and mingle with people you can click with, that will help alot. or move to a foreign country to extrovert yourself.
    The fear of poverty turns people into slaves of money.

    "In this Caesar there are many Mariuses"~Sulla

    Conquer your inner demons first before you conquer the world.

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    or move to a foreign country to extrovert yourself.
    i feel i can be more blunt and direct and personal and honest when i talk english [when i'm oblivious about fine language/commincation rules] - for instance talking to a stranger: it seems to be easy in english. you could just call someone Sir. if it is odd, it assumed to be because you are a foreigner. you cant do that in germany (if german). "hallo, guten tag der herr" is only allowed for people who wear a trenchcoat and are over 70 years old. there is no "Ma'm" either. dame or frulein .. not common in public space! being german in germany i will have to wait for an opportunity to quit a dialoge in a friendly stylish way. in english i would just do it.

    but i totally suck at pronunciation of english

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    Senior Member Array Synapse's Avatar
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    I'm trying to be less of a loner these days which is working to a degree but somehow I still feel like a loner because the friends I know are unable to talk about the conversations I'm interested in. So I'm accepted now and less of an outcast if I choose not to be.

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    Used to be a huge longer in high school. I had about three friends, and I'd ditch them a lot and just head home to be alone. That completely changed when I got to college though High school was not fun times for me :P
    The probability that I was procrastinating when I was typing this post:

    P(have big assignment due) = 0.6
    P(posting on TypoC) = 0.2
    P(having big assignment due | posting on TypoC) = 0.7

    P(posting on TypoC | having big assignment due) = .......

    Eh, I'll finish it later.

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    Feline Member Array kelric's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Linguist View Post
    it gets easier to meet and hang out with people when you are natural and just yourself.
    I think that half of this is right on, and half of it (for me) couldn't be farther from the truth. Meeting people after you're out of school, for me, has been extremely difficult... difficult enough to call it almost fruitless. Not being a social person, I need longterm (I'm talking 2-3 months or more, at a minimum) proximity to people before I'm comfortable talking to them even casually. School was perfect for this... an environment where you see people frequently and have, if nothing else, a common set of things to talk about and be concerned with. Work's just different... I'm sure that it depends on your field, but most of the people I work with are very work-and-family oriented, and just don't have a whole lot in common with me. And work just doesn't really seem like the place to meet friends.

    Having said that... it's definitely easier to just relax and be yourself with people as you get older. I can still be a bit neurotic about it occasionally, but for the most part, it's much, much better than teens/early 20's (I'm in my mid-30's now).

    But am I an outcast? Yes and no. Yes because I'm extraordinarily quiet, unsocial (but not antisocial), and most of my life consists of working and doing quiet things by myself. I'm not missed at social events, etc. because there just aren't any going on to which I'd be invited, other than a few times a year, which I make sure to attend. But this is largely self-imposed, even if not intentionally. So no.

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