But it got me to thinking, my friends always tell me I'm being paranoid when I say I hate being tall, but paranoia like this doesn't just come out of nowhere right? it comes out of knowing already, what I stumbled across in that thread, that guys generally prefer shorter women.
A response from someone who's 5'2:
I'd be surprised if the majority of guys preferred short girls over the tall ones. Many whom I know seem to be naturally geared towards females who are relatively close to their height, not someone who's significantly shorter. While numerous women have concerns about their weight, I'm one of the few who have the short-complex, which has lasted well throughout my adolescent years. I remember as I child that I'd be secretly envious of my sister and male cousins who were growing beyond my stature. The concerns and bitterness have completely worn off nowadays, but that doesn't get rid of the status of being 'travel-sized', 'cute' and 'cuddly' compared to my 5'8/5'10+ female friends. Some petite women may defend their position by stating, "it's all in the matter of attitude" and then go onto equating 'confidence' with loving yourself. I disagree. Indeed, attitude is the key to coping, however, I don't need to "love" nor even slightly like any personal qualities to peacefully tolerate who I am and become secure about my identity. My ambitious nature and philosophy of resilience encourages me to work with what I have, yet if given the chance, I'd gladly exchange my height with you any day, BerberElla. On the other hand, several of my petite friends & relatives LOVE being short. They like the feeling of being feminine and dainty. And I, myself, like having physical freedom and to quote 93JC, "mmm, legs."
Back to the question. You're 100% right. Paranoia (in general) doesn't come out of thin air. Find the source of the paranoia and discover ways to meet the demands in different areas. Judging from this thread, does your height issues mostly stem from dating concerns?
It's humorous how often I run into short women who want to be taller and tall women who want to be shorter. Seems like a divine practical joke.
(For the record, I usually prefer tall women and men, yet I willing to date a woman/man who's near my height. Though the majority of my infatuations mostly happen to be slender and tall, height is only a tiny factor compared to other degrees of attractiveness -- such as face, voice, skin/hair color, body type, style, character, quirks, musical ability, intellect, etc. I honestly don't recall being attracted to someone mainly based on their height.)
"I cannot expect even my own art to provide all of the answers -- only to hope it keeps asking the right questions." -- Grace Hartigan
I'm 5'7". I prefer males around the same height as me or shorter. I feel uneasy around men who are taller than me, like say around 6'. And that's probably because I've been a abused a lot in my life by taller men. I hate the feeling of being physically overpowered.