Well, I am an introvert who is always mistaken for an extravert because I have a lot of zest and am very loud and boisterous- I am very much a kosher ham wherever I go and am a character. Being around people though is both stressful and very very draining- but it doesn't mean I have to hide the flair inside me when I'm around them and not be myself and not laugh and not live out loud.
I like to perform for people and make them laugh but afterwards I just want to re-energize in my fortress of solitude,lol. I love nothing more then to be in my home and with my hubby. I prefer quality intimate time with people and small groups because I value meaningful emotional intimacy and depth more then anything.
I don't understand why introverts are seen as having to be quiet, off to the side and out of the lime light in personality.
Life is too short and I want to be alive and yes- I am an introvert!
I am always labeled as an extrovert within my close circle of friends. The reason is because I trust them and feel comfortable being around them. It would be a strain when we would go out and they expected me to act the same way around strangers that I do around them.
Introverts can learn to fake extroversion for many reasons...
--our jobs require it, or we want to be good at a job that requires it
--we got too much flak for our introversion growing up, so we tried to "fix it"
--we look confident when giving a presentation, but that's because we have a topic to talk about and be an expert on, and it's not just social interaction, which is draining in a lot of cases
--we fake extroversion to close the gap between us and the people around us, so we won't seem so strange
--we fake extroversion as a defense mechanism, to keep people from digging too deep if we don't want to get to know a person
--we fake extroversion at work so people won't think we're snobs
When I want to talk and be outgoing, I'm a big mouth. Usually I only do that when I really need to light up an atmosphere, after people get started, comfortable I just observe.
But that doesn't last too long and then I need to go in "hut mode" or I get very cranky.
I am an INTJ who sometimes gets mistaken for an ENTJ due to (I'm assuming) the fact that I am very assertive and opinionated. Sometimes when I start talking, especially arguing, it comes off as if I'm yelling.
It's not extraversion, it's just me impatiently pushing the words out of my mouth.