This sort of makes sense. I notice when I'm around other I's, I tend to talk more as opposed to when I'm around E's. But at the same time, I'm also given more of an opportunity to talk lol. So I think it's more because of that and not really because of energy.
I guess what I was feeling was more freedom around them, as other people have said more opportunity to talk and not getting smothered. I think I retain more energy around introverts than I do with extroverts, but that energy is still being expelled. I guess this explains why I prefer to hang out with introverts.
Energized by both, for a time at least... I can spend a whole day with an introverted buddy, but with extroverts I run out of fuel within a couple hours.
Originally Posted by ajblaise
Something I've noticed is that when I'm around introverts who are more introverted than me, I can sometimes ease into the extrovert role. And for a little while, the whole "getting socially drained by people" doesn't apply.
I can relate. I morph into a extrovert when I'm with my most introverted friend. It's fun for awhile; seeing a different side of myself which I rarely get to experience. However, I get drained in this role as well.
To die would be an awfully big adventure - Peter Pan
I guess what I was feeling was more freedom around them, as other people have said more opportunity to talk and not getting smothered.
I was married to someone much more introverted than I, then I dated someone more extroverted that I.
I miss being married to the introvert because I felt extroverted around him. It was as though his extremely reserved nature made me want to balance things out by bouncing off the walls, talking incessantly. LOL! I also found that I was much more optimistic around him (he was very pessimistic).
The extrovert I dated was very affectionate and sociable, which made me want to guard myself and become more reserved. I found that I was much more pessimistic and skeptical around him (he was overly optimistic).
I've always been interested as to why I've reacted this way.
I don't think it matters too much either way to me. In some ways it is good to be around someone that is just as nervous in social situations as myself (ie. an introvert) but the free and easy manners of an extrovert can really put me at ease.
I had a flatmate who was very introverted and talking to him was like pulling teeth. I used to think he hated me but really he just wasn't much of the talking type. I have such a fear of those sort of awkward conversations that an extrovert is often preferable. That said, I know a lot of introverts that are very communicative (like myself).
My energy in conversation generally comes from my level of interest in the subject matter rather than the level of introversion/extroversion in person I'm speaking to. Of course, if I get stonewalled, ignored or brushed off it doesn't exactly work too well - and this can come from either type.
I've stumbled upon a lot of introverted sensors and I get along well with them yet at times communication wise I tend to say very little because I know they are less interested in the my talk and save stacks of energy.
I get exhausted speaking with family members and they are introverted intuitive. I rarely speak with anyone else so that is a misrepresentation since they tend to be difficult to deal with.
It doesn't matter type so much as if the people aren't too serious and are good laughers. I like the company of people who I have good comedic chemistry with- I have come across both introverts and extroverts who can provide me this. There are plenty of too serious extraverts and introverts both too.