Seek freedom and become captive of your desires, seek discipline and find your liberty.
"If you go looking for something in particular, your chances of finding it are very bad, because of all the things in the world, you're only looking for one of them. If you go looking for anything at all, your chances of finding it are very good, because of all the things in the world, you're sure to find some of them."
I don't think you're understanding desparado's point at all.
He is not out there saying women dress in white on there wedding day because all kitchen appliances come in white.
He is just saying that he knows women are more attracted to men who can be strong firm and take charge. That does not mean you will have a tyrant, just a protector of the household and a man you can lean on.