Again, fair enough, but in the pre-dating stage of male/female acquaintance, women are the choosers --- so some (certainly not all) inconsistent 'traditionalist' male behaviors are attempts at accommodation, and that inconsistency is then different-in-kind.
Bottom line: women are the choosers, in Stage #1 of the mating sequence, and they often put more thought and effort into shopping for shoes than they do into accurately parsing one man from another in a social setting ...
I get what you're saying. Because women are more than likely to be asked out by men, women are in the position to choose.
And apparently, flirting begins with the woman "making eyes"... but this concept is foreign to me.
Practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty.
Women are the choosers, or the "comparison shoppers" when it comes to mating, I will definitely give you that, but, most of us, anyway, CARE A SHIT TON MORE ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIPS THAN WE DO ABOUT SHOES, EW!!!
Your example is not only incorrect it is horribly offensive.
Again, that's not what I meant to say: I ABSOLUTELY AGREE that great care should be put into evaluating potential partners, far more than goes into shopping --- my point is that we are taught (primarily in high school, and in other contexts thereafter) to evaluate potential mates by relatively meaningless and inaccurate criteria.
I do apologize for my lack of clarity, but good God ... this isn't the place for me.
Women should NOT be less picky. That's my point. But many are; they often screen out men who are good and capable and worthy, based on meaningless criteria --- and men do likewise, once the relationship proceeds to privacy.
I'm clearly not well-suited for this style of dialog. Again, I'll withdraw, with apologies.
I'd just like to point out that I thoroughly enjoy when CC goes off and attacks people. Keep it up!
It's some amusing to watch people lose their composure. But I don't like to see it when I like that person.
I'm in mind of the thread you started where you asked why people don't understand you. And I asked if you could see yourself as others see you. @CC.
Worth thinking about.
There's disagreement and there's exposing our ickies for everybody to have to slog through.
If you like to wallow, aj - go for it.
"No ray of sunshine is ever lost, but the green which it awakes into existence needs time to sprout, and it is not always granted to the sower to see the harvest. All work that is worth anything is done in faith." - Albert Schweitzer