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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    It's not an either/or, sweety. Yes, a guy who can take charge is an asset, yes wusses are frustrating, but that doesn't mean we want the guy to always take charge and always decide stuff. If you happen to suck at organizing stuff and your SO is a bonafide organisational wiz, you'd be a stupid man to insist on taking the lead on that and keeping it under your control, sorry. For that matter, it takes a real man to recognize that, step aside and trust your SO with this while making sure she feels validated for her skill. And meanwhile, it means you don't have to worry about yet another thing and can take a load off. Everybody wins
    Of course ...that is all true.

    I'm referring to relationship dynamics:

    Her: "Are we doing anything this weekend?"

    Him: "I don't know...I guess"

    Her: "well what did you have planned?"

    Him: "nothing....what do you want to do?"

    Her: "I just want to spend time together"

    Him: "Okay....so what do you want to do? Wanna eat? Wanna see a movie?"

    Her: "You decide"

    Him: "just tell me what you want to do"

    All of this equals: PUSSY

    Men need to be men. Have a plan. Treat her like a cherished person. Inspire her....don't ask her to come up with all the answers. Too many guys have left their nuts in a jar.....
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    Mmm, not so much pussy, but indifferent to her..which is even worse IMHO
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    Quote Originally Posted by Desperado44 View Post

    Men need to be men. Have a plan. Treat her like a cherished person. Inspire her....don't ask her to come up with all the answers. Too many guys have left their nuts in a jar.....
    You know Desperado, it takes two to tango...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Blackmail! View Post
    Game over, Desperado44.

    Now it's time for you to lament again for why women don't understand you're the perfect guy for them while you show your muscles...
    :yim_rolling_on_the_

    .....not worth the effort.....but I think I'll fix that. Thanks.
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    Ideologically, I don't want to agree with Desperado, but what is said above is EXACTLY RIGHT. "No More Mr. Nice Guy" is actually a book brimming with truths that may make us uncomfortable about who we are (whether male or female) and the embarrassing shallowness of our mating behaviors --- but it is frighteningly accurate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    It's not an either/or, sweety. Yes, a guy who can take charge is an asset, yes wusses are frustrating, but that doesn't mean we want the guy to always take charge and always decide stuff. If you happen to suck at organizing stuff and your SO is a bonafide organisational wiz, you'd be a stupid man to insist on taking the lead on that and keeping it under your control, sorry. For that matter, it takes a real man to recognize that, step aside and trust your SO with this while making sure she feels validated for her skill. And meanwhile, it means you don't have to worry about yet another thing and can take a load off. Everybody wins
    I don't think you're understanding desparado's point at all.

    He is not out there saying women dress in white on there wedding day because all kitchen appliances come in white.

    He is just saying that he knows women are more attracted to men who can be strong firm and take charge. That does not mean you will have a tyrant, just a protector of the household and a man you can lean on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Virus View Post
    I don't think you're understanding desparado's point at all.

    He is not out there saying women dress in white on there wedding day because all kitchen appliances come in white.

    He is just saying that he knows women are more attracted to men who can be strong firm and take charge. That does not mean you will have a tyrant, just a protector of the household and a man you can lean on.
    I agree with that. I don't agree with: assumes you will lean on him and therefore skips the 'consulting' stage
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    I agree with that. I don't agree with: assumes you will lean on him and therefore skips the 'consulting' stage
    ofcourse, its a ying yang, simple as that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Virus View Post
    ofcourse, its a ying yang, simple as that.
    I'm also pretty sure that for instance NT women are maybe even more sensitive to this delicate balance/difference, as they, much as their NT male counterparts, don't take very kindly to the implication that they're not competent/intelligent enough to deal with a situation on their own...so I'd watch out with the 'leading' thing around them
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    I'm also pretty sure that for instance NT women are maybe even more sensitive to this delicate balance/difference, as they, much as their NT male counterparts, don't take very kindly to the implication that they're not competent/intelligent enough to deal with a situation on their own...so I'd watch out with the 'leading' thing around them
    female dogs (just because I am not cussing anymore or trying not to).

    *it was a joke for all you who can't figure one out*
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