With Christmas around the corner, my usual scrutinizing of the holiday shopping has already started. Working at a department store, I see hundreds and hundreds of people buying such insignificant gifts just because it's Christmas or they think the person can use it. I just stand there like....I don't get it. I tell a lot of customers that I have a hard time reaching the point of caring enough about another person to buy them a gift. I'll admit I have bought a few gifts, but they were very small and much more purposeful.
Like I said in another thread, I despise the whole gift giving process. The fact that you're getting me a gift for Christmas just means the purchase was provoked by the holiday, thus the meaning behind it is trivial. It'd be different if I were in a relationship, and I were lusting for someone, then all rules would be thrown out the window. If I really wanted something, I'd just get it myself. Though, part of me likes the gift giving process because it's an incredibly efficient way of showing you what the other person thinks of you and your relationship with them along with giving you a glimpse into how they think.
I'm well aware that there are a massive amount of people who criticize the holidays for similar reasons. I love the Christmas season. I just don't get the gift buying. I guess to me, a gift should be so immensely personalized. I read a really interesting site that probably applies to a lot of Thinkers.
I look at buying a gift with questions. Who am I buying the gift for? Why are they important to me? Why are they important enough to warrant spending my own money on them? What will I gain from buying this gift for them? Will they like it? Should I care if they like it? How much time should I spend deciding on the gift? How much money should I spend on it? These questions pop up in my head at the thought of buying someone something.
Do others run into these problems?