Around here--China, the PRC, anywhere Han Chinese--there's long, long standing traditions of feasting and toasting. Toasting is with baijiu, a toxic syrupy white spirit. Toasting is frequently one-on-one and targetted, and even so it is exceedingly bad form to resist a toast. Equality, modernity, and a savage re-alignment of all things cultural some 40 years back mean women are no longer exempt.
But you can move someone to a place of love by stepping up when she is under fire and taking her hit. You can be her proxy and drink for her.
If you ask someone to drink for you, it's disgusting. If someone takes that punch in the gut for you off his own bat, it's love.