a world without just one of any of the types would be horrible in some way or another. though the next statement is a bit of a generality i would like to think it would be true: without SJs there would be quite a bit less order, without SPs entertainment would be pretty much crippled, without NTs we would still be living in caves, and without NFs we would have no moral balance
All I know for sure is that I come from a long line of dead people
^^ i know...do people really think we just go around complimenting everyone just to be nice?
i have a few people in my life that i rarely ever compliment...because i just don't mean it...others i do constantly...cuz i do.
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
Fewer shallow and meaningless compliments and flirts.
I'm a bit conflicted on this one. There's nothing that infuriates me more than when people make idle chit chat and have conversations that don't go anywhere and really have no purpose. I work next to the receptionist, and often someone will come in and open with a quip about the weather, reception area, etc. It takes about 6 verbal exchanges to get to the point of conversation or visit in the first place. It's mind boggling to me, and can honestly take up about 30 minutes of my life as I try to process and comprehend why the hell the visitor wouldn't just say what he needs instead of wasting everyone's time. Also, when coworkers need something from me, a bunch of them come to me and grill me with petty "how are yous" and how my day has been or school is going, when I just want them to get to the point so I can get back to far more important things.
But, on the other hand, I do something like this all the time. When starting a conversation, I know there are certain social rules you have to follow in order to get the person I need something from or want to talk to interested in the conversation in the first place. I'll say something, and be completely uninterested in their response and wont even acknowledge it, and even if they go into detail about it I'll usually try to change the subject as quickly as possible.
So yeah, I guess I'm guilty of the meaningless exchanges, even though I hate them so much.
Trust me, I feel the same way. I prefer to cut the small talk and get straight to what's interesting in my opinion, basically what the other person's like and how they experience life. My guess is you consider this part of the small talk, though But there are idd social rules to follow, coz it takes a while before someone will open up to you. As in your example, it's considered polite to show an interest in the person you want something from