Because honestly the outcome of this conversation doesn't matter to me that much.
Consider my comment more "intellectual" than emotional.
(and no, I'm not crying.)
As far as the larger comment went, if a man cries with me at the appropriate time (when I'm grieved), that's good. And if he can handle me being angry without trying to defuse, deflect, ignore, or placate me, that's also good.
When I'm angry, I just want to be allowed to speak my mind. If you try to make me feel better before I know I've conveyed why I'm upset, that will just upset me more.
So is that it means to be a man?
(I feel like this thread is some other topic trapped in this topic's body.)