Being liked is nice because it doesn't necessarily require you get close to anyone. People can like and admire each other from a distance.
Being loved is of course a great thing. But if the love isn't reciprocated, this can create big problems for both the lover and the loved.
The best thing about being understood is that the person who understands you will often act accordingly to that understanding, thus erasing most of the would be misunderstandings and miscommunication and angst from the relationship.
You can't assume nobody wants to be one.
Anybody relatively mature knows it's not all take.
Peace, Victor, I'm not arguing, just saying.
It's OK for you to argue with me. And of course you are right, anyone relatively mature knows it is not all take.
But also freedom is relatively new. Institutional slavery was only abolished for the first time in human history in 1833 by the House of Commons. Apartheid only ended recently. The Berlin Wall only came down in 1989. And vast areas of the world remain unfree today. So universal freedom is only very new in some parts of the world - our part.
So we are free here to desire what we want as long as we don't harm others.
But our free desires are often childlike. And our desires are often contradictory. And they are very often cheap and vulgar. And quite often, self destructive.
And so we need to learn, it seems to me, to desire what is good.
And the education of desire starts with a good liberal arts education in the humanities. But where it ends, I don't know.
My own desires tend to be childlike or childish, contradictory and sometimes cheap and vulgar, and a little self destructive.
Of course, usually I hide this from myself and everyone else but my reason tells me, I can desire better.
And perhaps this is the first step - to desire better.