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    Boobs and sauces aside.. Usehername, that was a really awesome post. Albeit I don't like showing that side of being a female, that is a constant reminder.

    From a military standpoint.. I constantly have to dodge and deal with people pretending to be nice to me just because they think they can get into my pants. If I don't "give it up" I'm a prude, if I'm assertive about my opinions I'm a bitch, and there are no other stereotypes for a female armed serviceman unfortunately. You'll always be one of the three to everyone outside of your social circle.. which is a hell of a lot of men.

    I will always be incapable of doing the jobs I wanted to do in the service, and went from being highly motivated and dedicated to a more apathic crawling career because my amibitions will never be sought out. I cannot become a ranger, I cannot be special forces, I cannot be field artillery, nor infantry, nor any other job that will "put me on the frontlines." Although I found a loophole being Military Police Combat SUPPORT.. Especially in Iraq they segregated us entirely. Men aren't scolded for being men, but women are constantly told not to whore themselves out and reminded of all the punishments we can come across for interacting too much with males. (Perception is everything in the army.. Talking too much to someone can and does land you legal punishments.) Let's not mention that our entire position as a company required all the females to be pushed into three teams: Logistics, personal security, and working around base in general. I was one of 6 females in our entire company that had a job worth a shit.. and I only got it because I knew and was friends with our squad leader.

    Being a woman is some of the most frustrating realities I'll ever know.. and I've spent a great deal of my time struggling with my identity as one and trying to find a balance between life in general and my stance within it. It's gotta be the greatest challenge sent my way.. and I'm just stubborn to begin with.. I don't take kindly to backing down, being happy with what I have and silently accepting the way things are.. for better or worse.

    Buuut.. if I weren't a woman, I wouldn't be able to love men as much as I do.
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    Men have their own hardships, too, just so you know. (No pun intended.)

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    *thumbs up to Usehername*

    Getting leered at, wondering if you were hired because the boss wants to fuck you, getting asked on dates or if your married in the convenience store and getting grabbed in inappropriate places.

    Also-

    Getting free drinks at the bar, being more likely to get help if your car breaks down because you're less of a threat, getting to wear sun dresses (really comfortable!) and multiple orgasms.

    There's upsides and downsides to it, it's basically trying to find a balance between using your body to get what you need/want without feeling used
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    Quote Originally Posted by Uberfuhrer View Post
    Men have their own hardships, too, just so you know. (No pun intended.)
    We never said they didn't But this wasn't a "What's it like to be a guy?" thread.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Usehername View Post
    You are hyper-alert to your surroundings whenever you're not in a completely safe place. You're reminded every time you walk from university to your parked vehicle that your younger brother can sit down at the kitchen table, casually eating with one hand while completely pinning you with the other arm (to the point where you can't squirm out of it) because you're a member of the physically weaker sex.

    When you're alone with male co-workers they hit on you when they'd never make inappropriate comments with anyone else around.

    You're assumed to be a worse driver than any male, you're assumed to be less cognitively competent, you're assumed to not know what you're talking about when you're dealing with anything mechanically inclined. (Once every two shifts at the bike shop, I'll stand there and spend two minutes explaining, in detail, what is wrong with their bike and what needs to be done to fix it. They'll politely listen, then turn to my male co-worker and ask him the exact same question. Or I'll spend time explaining something on the phone, they'll respond with a, "Can I just speak to the head mechanic?" So when you pass the phone to the nearest male co-worker, he repeats what you've said (with n00b employees sometimes they'll have to put them on hold to get the answer from me) and the customer believes them because their voice is an octave lower than mine.)

    Inebriated or otherwise rowdy males in groups will walk up to you and grab your ass or "accidentally" brush their arm against your chest. Males always want to touch you. You get stared at regularly. And you know what men are thinking. And it makes you uncomfortable.

    You also get business doors opening for you after hours when the male employer/employee sees you arrive to realize the store is closed, sometimes even explicitly remarking, "if you were a guy, I wouldn't have opened the door!"

    And when the right guy is checking you out it makes you feel hella special. But also sometimes like you're nothing beyond your body.
    Stop depressing me.

    Quote Originally Posted by Synarch View Post
    I went to a party once. Just so happened that I was the only straight male there (the girl I was dating was something of a fag hag). I was getting eye fucked constantly by men. The eye contact was crazy. Most men never make eye contact in daily life. It was just a glimpse of what women must go through on a daily basis.
    Yup, imagine now what it's like having them talk to your boobs all the time.

    EDIT: Oh wait, sorta like the earlier part of this thread, lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    Stop depressing me.



    Yup, imagine now what it's like having them talk to your boobs all the time.
    That reminds me, I think your boobs are taking up too much bandwidth!

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    Lmao.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Usehername View Post
    You are hyper-alert to your surroundings whenever you're not in a completely safe place. You're reminded every time you walk from university to your parked vehicle that your younger brother can sit down at the kitchen table, casually eating with one hand while completely pinning you with the other arm (to the point where you can't squirm out of it) because you're a member of the physically weaker sex.
    You never feel completely safe. Always vigilant. In any group of women, ask how many have been followed, groped or attacked and you will get a very high percentage affirmative.


    Quote Originally Posted by Usehername View Post
    They'll politely listen, then turn to my male co-worker and ask him the exact same question. Or I'll spend time explaining something on the phone, they'll respond with a, "Can I just speak to the head mechanic?" So when you pass the phone to the nearest male co-worker, he repeats what you've said (with n00b employees sometimes they'll have to put them on hold to get the answer from me) and the customer believes them because their voice is an octave lower than mine.)
    A friend of mine is a surgeon and she gets the same thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Usehername View Post
    You are hyper-alert to your surroundings whenever you're not in a completely safe place. You're reminded every time you walk from university to your parked vehicle that your younger brother can sit down at the kitchen table, casually eating with one hand while completely pinning you with the other arm (to the point where you can't squirm out of it) because you're a member of the physically weaker sex.

    When you're alone with male co-workers they hit on you when they'd never make inappropriate comments with anyone else around.

    You're assumed to be a worse driver than any male, you're assumed to be less cognitively competent, you're assumed to not know what you're talking about when you're dealing with anything mechanically inclined. (Once every two shifts at the bike shop, I'll stand there and spend two minutes explaining, in detail, what is wrong with their bike and what needs to be done to fix it. They'll politely listen, then turn to my male co-worker and ask him the exact same question. Or I'll spend time explaining something on the phone, they'll respond with a, "Can I just speak to the head mechanic?" So when you pass the phone to the nearest male co-worker, he repeats what you've said (with n00b employees sometimes they'll have to put them on hold to get the answer from me) and the customer believes them because their voice is an octave lower than mine.)

    Inebriated or otherwise rowdy males in groups will walk up to you and grab your ass or "accidentally" brush their arm against your chest. Males always want to touch you. You get stared at regularly. And you know what men are thinking. And it makes you uncomfortable.

    You also get business doors opening for you after hours when the male employer/employee sees you arrive to realize the store is closed, sometimes even explicitly remarking, "if you were a guy, I wouldn't have opened the door!"

    And when the right guy is checking you out it makes you feel hella special. But also sometimes like you're nothing beyond your body.
    So what are you wearing?

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    I like being female a lot. I find our clothes, aura, and general natures to be splendid. Women are cosmic, and I enjoy my girlfriends, nay, I need them. I don't understand girls who don't like other girls.

    I've run into extreme frustration when I'm physically too weak or small to do something, and have to ask a man.

    I can't imagine not being attracted to men, and when it's the right guy calling me 'baby' it does me in.

    I spend a lot of my time being wary and solo (not coupled). I've been escorted around by male friends all my life, never left alone, because I get followed or stalked with frightening regularity, even in broad daylight. One of the last instances, I was out with an INTJ bff, we were in a store, I wandered into one aisle away from him (they had Pokey Little Puppy books!). He came by almost immediately, ushered me out of the aisle into another one, looking really irritated.

    "What's the matter?" I asked.

    "You. I can't take you anywhere." He looked back, then got quiet. "Just wait..."

    A guy appeared, took one look at INTJ bff, looked alarmed and left.

    "That guy's been following you since we got here. I doubt he needed ceiling fan grommets. (the aisle we were in)."

    I felt very upset after that.


    When I mess up at things like math, I feel like I'm reinforcing a stereotype for other girls and I wind up ashamed of myself.

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    The very idea that my body could produce another living soul is profoundly amazing.

    Boobs are great! Women have great bodies. We're pretty all over.
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