SFP males... do you have this problem?

[Domino]

Originally Posted by Randomnity

I think people read into your actions what they want to, a lot of the time.

Exactly. If they're determined.

[FDG]

Originally Posted by Jack Flak

Slightly beside the OP point: I have noticed that ESFP females tend to be incredibly flirtatious with all guys who don't repulse them.

Yeah. I think that (if you're wondering if there's a romantic interest or not) what you have to look for - with people in general - is the relative treatment you get compared to other people, rather than the absolute value so to speak.

[Giggly]

Flirts in this thread.

[runvardh]

Originally Posted by lauranna

I don't see it as a problem. It is indeed them with the problem! flirting, playfullness. all part of the game! Some people just take it all way too seriously!

And not enough of us realize how seriously we take it. The fact that I know I do is a big reason why it takes me so long to accept that someone actually likes me rather than just playing. Level of seriousness just shows where the values are, maturity is where the superiority is...

[Lohengrin]

Originally Posted by sarah

You know, maybe it's that our friendliness has an overt playfulness about it that people commonly associate with flirtation. I never thought about that until now...

But that would suck if I had to change who I was just to avoid people getting the wrong impression.

Sarah
ISFP

I know!

I had vowed to become formal in demeanour with one of those girls but her friend advised me against it that would 'hurt her' more than my 'egocentric flirting'.

Darned if you do, darned if you don't.

Originally Posted by Jeffster

Yeah, I'm often called a flirt, but the truth is I'm just naturally this charming.

Haha, I bet you are.

Originally Posted by Randomnity

I think people read into your actions what they want to, a lot of the time.

They brand their own concrete expectations of what is to happen onto the situation and then they get perplexed and upset when reality doesn't match up to their 'plans'. It makes me want to yell "back off a bit there, mortal."

[Jack Flak]

Originally Posted by FDG

Yeah. I think that (if you're wondering if there's a romantic interest or not) what you have to look for - with people in general - is the relative treatment you get compared to other people, rather than the absolute value so to speak.

You know it. I found that out at sixteen when I saw my favorite ESFP hanging off another guy's neck (or some such of her flirty behaviors, mheh) For shame! I knew then I was screwed, lacking at the time any socially advantageous personality traits whatsoever.