How do you react when someone pisses you off?

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Originally Posted by alicia91

I never lose my temper. I tend to confront people who are close to me directly (like friends and family), and with people I don't know as well, I'll usually get back to them later once I've had a chance to think things through a bit, at which point I might call them or email, etc. So I tend to very directly and logically tell people what it is they are doing that doesn't sit well with me.

But I'm also quite quick to forgive and forget so often I don't get around to sending that email or writing that letter of complaint. Usually once I've had a chance to think about it I run it through my filter of "how important is this in the scheme of life?" If it's not, I tend to just let it roll off my back.

Damn I wish I could do that! That's got to be some kind of gift!

[YourLocalJesus]

It takes some time or skill to piss me off to the point where I become a raving psychotic. But yeah, I have it in me. It usually takes violence to piss me off seriously, or maybe deliberately destroying some important possession of mine. Anyway, when the damage is done they usually run for their lives because my eyes turn black, my face red and veins start bulging in my forehead. If they don't, I usually aim for the throat, balls or eyes.

And yes, when it has gone that far, i'm not much of a talker.

If someone irritates me to the point that I want to lose them, I do the same thing, but verbally. I've got a big talent in the area of not being civil, and I bet I could make the vast majority in here cry if I wanted to. Yep, EVIL ENTJ's Know you're thinking it

[millerm277]

Oh. I probably should have added to my original post...if someone manages to successfully piss me off, and I can't find a way to remove myself from the situation....watch out. That's only happened once in the last 5 years...it was with someone who'd constantly bothered/made fun of me for as long as I can remember. He was dumb enough to throw the first punch, and after giving him a chance to go away, he decided to continue fighting. As a result, he got a deflated ego, along with a broken arm and some other ailments for his efforts. (Attacking someone stronger and larger than you, because you think they won't fight back is not the most intelligent solution...)

My picture is a good representation of me. Calm and collected under almost all conditions. But push it too far, without being careful, and you'll find yourself in an avalanche of hurt. (verbal or physical.)

[wolfy]

Originally Posted by Mo_(operalover)

It takes A LOT to get me angry but when that does happen, I stew & stew & stew on the inside and completely detach from that person. If the person is civil, I can quite quickly get over what made me angry and get back to being friends with them BUT if someone mocked an aspect of my personality either expressly or in an implied manner (and it's not done in jest), then I NEVER forgive them. EVER. I might get back to being civil but not close/friendly.

How do you other SPs express your anger?

I respond like this too. Exactly like that. Sometimes plan revenge but almost never bother. They can choke on their own bad karma.

[Grayscale]

i dont get angry very often, i dont even remember the last time. usually i just go off by myself to cool off.

[kyuuei]

I use chainsaws.. >.> ..

Nah, usually if it's nothing I can control I yell what I WOULD have said to objects when I'm by myself.

Sometimes though I just get a hair up my ass and blow up and say every little thing that ever pissed me off about that person.

[sarah]

Originally Posted by Mo_(operalover)

It takes A LOT to get me angry but when that does happen, I stew & stew & stew on the inside and completely detach from that person. If the person is civil, I can quite quickly get over what made me angry and get back to being friends with them BUT if someone mocked an aspect of my personality either expressly or in an implied manner (and it's not done in jest), then I NEVER forgive them. EVER. I might get back to being civil but not close/friendly.

How do you other SPs express your anger?

Wow, I totally relate to that! I can be very easy going and forgiving if someone makes a mistake that ends up costing me time or money. I don't even tend to hold a grudge against thoughless people who say things they don't even realize at the time are insulting. It's when someone insults my personality or my personal choices in such a way that it feels like they've devalued me as a person, then I can't get over it. I can be civil to them, but friendship is out of the question. I express my anger by walling myself off from them, and being freezing cold to them whenever they try to be friendly.

If I'm angry at a family member, that's completely different -- when my sister and I were growing up, I tended to get all hysterical (screaming, crying, slamming doors), but there was this huge bond between us that we knew existed, and that we respected even when we couldn't stand being around each other.



Sarah
ISFP

[BerberElla]

It actually doesn't take alot to piss me off these days, just stepping on my foot at a gig without apologising for it can make me see red, in fact I think I spend far too much of my time trying to control my ever present rage and not get into fights.

I don't go around throwing punches but if they aren't intimidated by my height, my demeanour or crying because of the things I am saying to them and actually try to hit me, then I go nuts and usually get dragged off the person I've pounded to the floor.

Having a bad temper sucks.

On the other hand it takes alot for someone I know and care about to piss me off enough to say or do anything to them, it's just strangers outside who feel my wrath.

Personal affirmation (as prescribed by the doc) *I'm a nice person, really I am*

[Randomnity]

I get annoyed fairly easily, but usually keep it to myself if I feel unjustified in being annoyed (ex I'm just in a grumpy mood or I realize that my expectations are unrealistic), or else calmly express my dislike with the other person's actions if I feel it'd be productive (ie, to stop it happening again).

I very rarely get to the point of being angry. It's almost always in response to other people getting angry at me, if I feel their over-emotional response is unjustified. I can only think of one occasion when I was angry at someone's action, and that was because he was angry...it takes a lot to anger me with behavior, and normally I would just write off/avoid people who do that anyway. It's only when it's friends that it becomes a problem.

Originally Posted by Mo_(operalover)

It takes A LOT to get me angry but when that does happen, I stew & stew & stew on the inside and completely detach from that person. If the person is civil, I can quite quickly get over what made me angry and get back to being friends with them

This describes me in most cases, though a few times I've been so angry (and felt justified) that it took a long time (and an apology) before I stop being angry. Although, in many cases, I'm angry because the person was not civil, and that rarely changes.

Originally Posted by millerm277

It's very difficult to piss me off, I have an extremely high tolerance of behavior, but if someone does, I'll generally just confront them and try to get them to change it. If that doesn't work, I'll just stay away from them. Not worth my time and effort to do more than that.

+1. I have the most problems when it's with someone I can't avoid (roommate, family) or someone I don't want to avoid (close friend).

[Bella]

I don't really act out when I'm angry, it's more what happens on the inside. It feels like every other piece of repressed anger is loosened and wants to come to the surface.