ISTJs

Beat · 03-10-2008, 01:29 AM

How much do you hate being an ISTJ?

Paul3144 · 03-10-2008, 02:08 AM

I don't... Why would I?

Beat · 03-10-2008, 02:10 AM

That's good. I dunno, I get annoyed/frustrated with myself sometimes.

Wanna know what the other ISTJs think of their personality.

heart · 03-10-2008, 02:35 AM

Why do you get annoyed with yourself?

Beat · 03-10-2008, 02:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by heart

Why do you get annoyed with yourself?

Taking things too seriously sometimes, internalizing a lot of emotion, not being able to relate to people of faith, etc. etc. etc.

edit:
probably for things that other peope dislike about ISTJs.

Recoleta · 03-10-2008, 04:48 AM

I don't hate being ISTJ at all. *Shrug* I am who I am, and I'm not going to apologize for it or try to change who I am to fit what others think I should be. With that said, there are parts of myself that I do sometimes get annoyed with. I can definitely relate to wishing I could just cut loose more often, lighten up, and be more reckless and open with my emotions (especially since I'm female)

However, for myself, I figure that when I meet the right guy I will feel comfortable opening up and being vulnerable. I can cut loose when I am around friends I trust and love, and thankfully I can lighten up when it is "play time." Really, it's not worth obsessing over stuff that bugs you about yourself, because trust me, there will always be someone out there that is jealous of and admires/appreciates the qualities and strengths that you do possess.

Just to share for a moment, there was this girl I worked with once...she was beautiful and all the guys at work loved flirting with her. She was always on her phone, was always busy, was kind of ditzy and emotional...but not terribly. It seemed she always got what she wanted -- ya know, a semi-charmed kind of life. However, one day I was working in the back of the store and she was there with me alone. I've spoken to her on occasion, but this particular day she walked up to me and just flat out said, "How do you do it?...How are you always so calm and are able to just be you?...I am jealous of what you have." I'm not entirely sure of the look I gave her, but I was thinking in my head, "Me!? Why on earth would you be jealous of me? You're the one that has it all." Lol...just thinking of that story still cracks me up. So yeah, the grass does always seem greener on the other side. I've learned that it's best to be content with who you are, but not allow yourself to settle into complacency.

Frankly, there are things that EVERY personality wishes they can change about themselves. No one is made with all strengths and no weaknesses (*cough* Yes,thatincludesyou,INTJ's). I think different personalities exist because we are meant to compliment each other and work off each others strengths. Without that variety the world would be a very boring and perhaps a not-so-functional place. So seriously Beat, don't be so hard on yourself...and don't let it get you down that SJ's may sometimes be stereotyped into little neat "personality boxes" that supposedly account for the way we are. MBTI is nice tool and all, but it is certainly not the end-all and say-all of who I am.

sassafrassquatch · 03-10-2008, 06:47 AM

Edahn · 03-10-2008, 08:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheBeatGoesOn

How much do you hate being an ISTJ?

I'm no ISTJ, but I can definitely understand why you'd hate yourself.

elfinchilde · 03-10-2008, 09:43 AM

I've worked in a place of majority ISTJs for a year, before i had to quit because i couldn't quite take the conservatism and rigidity.

perhaps where the ISTJ could improve on:

-loosening up! a sense of humor would be good.

-some spontaneity. Life does not always need to be planned.

-do not be too critical on others who just happen to not live life "your way". Just because it isn't your way, doesn't mean it is wrong.

-the stoicism is good; but sometimes, it kills you. especially when you're not in touch with your own emotions: that seems to be a blind spot for the ISTJ: they are so caught up with "living by the rules", that they forget they are living, breathing beings too, with emotions and desires of their own. It is not wrong to follow your heart, instead of the pedantry of society's dictates.

-the guiding philosophy for an ISTJ (correct me if i'm wrong) seems to be: Shit happens. You just have to bear with it.

Perhaps some fun can be injected into it? Too much stoicism can kill a person. We weren't born to be gods, after all. So maybe:

Shit happens. Throw it back at the other!

Play!

sassafrassquatch · 03-10-2008, 10:24 AM

03-10-2008, 01:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
Beat ...lost Join Date: Oct 2007 Type: ISTj Location: Yonder Posts: 4,802	ISTJs How much do you hate being an ISTJ?

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heart heart on fire Join Date: May 2007 Type: INFP Posts: 7,344	Why do you get annoyed with yourself? __________________ 5w4 sx/sp People understand me so poorly that they don't even understand my complaint about them not understanding me. Soren Kierkegaard

03-10-2008, 09:43 AM	#9 (permalink)
elfinchilde a white iris Join Date: Jan 2008 Type: intp Posts: 1,990	I've worked in a place of majority ISTJs for a year, before i had to quit because i couldn't quite take the conservatism and rigidity. perhaps where the ISTJ could improve on: -loosening up! a sense of humor would be good. -some spontaneity. Life does not always need to be planned. -do not be too critical on others who just happen to not live life "your way". Just because it isn't your way, doesn't mean it is wrong. -the stoicism is good; but sometimes, it kills you. especially when you're not in touch with your own emotions: that seems to be a blind spot for the ISTJ: they are so caught up with "living by the rules", that they forget they are living, breathing beings too, with emotions and desires of their own. It is not wrong to follow your heart, instead of the pedantry of society's dictates. -the guiding philosophy for an ISTJ (correct me if i'm wrong) seems to be: Shit happens. You just have to bear with it. Perhaps some fun can be injected into it? Too much stoicism can kill a person. We weren't born to be gods, after all. So maybe: Shit happens. Throw it back at the other! Play! __________________ You gave me hyacinths first a year ago; They called me the hyacinth girl. Yet when we came back, late, from the Hyacinth garden, Your arms full, and your hair wet, I could not Speak, and my eyes failed, I was neither Living nor dead, and I knew nothing, Looking into the heart of light, the silence. --T.S Eliot, The Wasteland

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03-10-2008, 02:08 AM	#2 (permalink)
Paul3144 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Type: ISTJ Posts: 4	I don't... Why would I?

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Beat ...lost Join Date: Oct 2007 Type: ISTj Location: Yonder Posts: 4,802	That's good. I dunno, I get annoyed/frustrated with myself sometimes. Wanna know what the other ISTJs think of their personality.

03-10-2008, 04:48 AM	#6 (permalink)
Recoleta No me digas, che! Join Date: Aug 2007 Type: ISTJ Posts: 621	I don't hate being ISTJ at all. Shrug I am who I am, and I'm not going to apologize for it or try to change who I am to fit what others think I should be. With that said, there are parts of myself that I do sometimes get annoyed with. I can definitely relate to wishing I could just cut loose more often, lighten up, and be more reckless and open with my emotions (especially since I'm female) However, for myself, I figure that when I meet the right guy I will feel comfortable opening up and being vulnerable. I can cut loose when I am around friends I trust and love, and thankfully I can lighten up when it is "play time." Really, it's not worth obsessing over stuff that bugs you about yourself, because trust me, there will always be someone out there that is jealous of and admires/appreciates the qualities and strengths that you do possess. Just to share for a moment, there was this girl I worked with once...she was beautiful and all the guys at work loved flirting with her. She was always on her phone, was always busy, was kind of ditzy and emotional...but not terribly. It seemed she always got what she wanted -- ya know, a semi-charmed kind of life. However, one day I was working in the back of the store and she was there with me alone. I've spoken to her on occasion, but this particular day she walked up to me and just flat out said, "How do you do it?...How are you always so calm and are able to just be you?...I am jealous of what you have." I'm not entirely sure of the look I gave her, but I was thinking in my head, "Me!? Why on earth would you be jealous of me? You're the one that has it all." Lol...just thinking of that story still cracks me up. So yeah, the grass does always seem greener on the other side. I've learned that it's best to be content with who you are, but not allow yourself to settle into complacency. Frankly, there are things that EVERY personality wishes they can change about themselves. No one is made with all strengths and no weaknesses (cough Yes,thatincludesyou,INTJ's). I think different personalities exist because we are meant to compliment each other and work off each others strengths. Without that variety the world would be a very boring and perhaps a not-so-functional place. So seriously Beat, don't be so hard on yourself...and don't let it get you down that SJ's may sometimes be stereotyped into little neat "personality boxes" that supposedly account for the way we are. MBTI is nice tool and all, but it is certainly not the end-all and say-all of who I am.

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