My ENFP Friend - Page 2

Butterfly · 03-06-2008, 06:31 PM

I like ISTJs, because of their groundedness. They are calm, practical and helpful. You know, gentleman types. I have respect for them.

whittykailey · 03-09-2008, 05:20 AM

I'm an ENFP and I have a really close friend who is an ISTJ. I love her to death. I think that our differences are so funny at times, but she is always there for me and I love that about her. We always end up doing the funniest things, because I get funny ideas and she helps me follow through with them (not my strong suit)! So I love being close to someone so different from me, it makes life so much more enjoyable. So all you ISTJs out there: You Rock. I have no idea where you get your patience and how you can get so much done without getting other ideas on your mind!!

Nameless · 03-09-2008, 05:50 AM

My roommate is an INTJ and we get along really really well...we often have opposite ways of looking at things, but are both always able to completely understand where the other person is coming from, so we can both be ourselves and appreciate each other for it.
With ISTJs, though (and I know a lot of these being an engineer), it seems like they are often more attracted to me than I am to them. I can see what makes them tick, but it is much harder for me to relate to it than with the INTJs.

Cality · 04-05-2008, 07:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Dizzy

I just find out that my best friend is an ENFP, found it because somewhere in the ISTJ description it said that ENFP's are their natural friends.

It is quite funny because this guy is in many ways exactly the opposite of me:
* Is always late (without notifying in advance)
* Life is one big party to him (instead of mine, where I need to earn my party time by working hard / study alot)
* He is a natural entertainer, gets along with everyone, makes new friends easy. (While I am more reserved and am very selective with new friends)
* He has quitted already three studies (while I finish everything I start)

Any other ISTJ got the same thing? I think the main thing is that we complement each other, and he is the perfect mate to release the pressure. Thing is when we go out we only have eye for each other and make fun together. Funny, because some friends told me this last time, that they felt left out, while I didn't even realize it.

Waw, being a ENFP mysefl, i rather thought I couldn't be friends with ISTJ. i have HUGE problems dealing with them!

Hexis · 04-05-2008, 08:06 AM

Like Dewey said we get along great, and how your qoute was talking about an INTJ's interaction with an ENFP can be like that of an anchor is very true in my oponion. One of my other best friends is Meta and we get along great as well and hes an INTJ. And when you put all three of us in the same room we will almost never stop talking about all kinds of stuff.

chris1207 · 04-15-2008, 09:13 PM

Apparently there's a magic that exists there that doesn't for ISTJ's and ENFJ's. I've known two. ISTJ's have a way of complaining about never having enough money and yet turning around and spending 180 on dvds in one trip to Fredmeyer. They're so awkward socially and while that's something that I often gravitate towards they are beyond help. They don't understand that you can't just get all excited about stuff you talk about and then to turn a cold shoulder on subject matter that other people introduce. It takes the wind out of their sails and makes them want to be around you a whole lot less.

Overall, I'd say that ISTJ's and INTJ's are big old EPIC PHAILZ in the sociability department...

Dizzy · 04-17-2008, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by chris1207

Apparently there's a magic that exists there that doesn't for ISTJ's and ENFJ's. I've known two. ISTJ's have a way of complaining about never having enough money and yet turning around and spending 180 on dvds in one trip to Fredmeyer. They're so awkward socially and while that's something that I often gravitate towards they are beyond help. They don't understand that you can't just get all excited about stuff you talk about and then to turn a cold shoulder on subject matter that other people introduce. It takes the wind out of their sails and makes them want to be around you a whole lot less.

Overall, I'd say that ISTJ's and INTJ's are big old EPIC PHAILZ in the sociability department...

I see where you are getting at, but note that these personality descriptions are the primary preference. When we develop, we learn to deal with this and resist the urges and open up for others. Although they need to be telling me something interesting, otherwise it is hard for me to be really interested. I pretend though.
The thing is maybe you never got the change to breakthrough an ISTJ and it is kinda strange to judge all others based on the two who buyed a lot of DVDs.

Anyways you catch my drift...

phoenix13 · 04-19-2008, 12:42 AM

My two best friends are ISTJ and INFP. Interestingly, I'm far closer to the ISTJ... probably because she's really good at initiating contact. She's the best friend one could ever have (fulfills all her friendly duties). We always have a blast, and she's my favorite (and only) clubbing buddy! Nevertheless, I'm absolutely convinced that this relationship would be murder in marriage. ENFPs are overly complex, ISTJs are shockingly simple (NOT an insult). There isn't enough stimulation for the ENFP and too much for the ISTJ.

Dizzy · 04-19-2008, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by phoenix13

My two best friends are ISTJ and INFP. Interestingly, I'm far closer to the ISTJ... probably because she's really good at initiating contact. She's the best friend one could ever have (fulfills all her friendly duties). We always have a blast, and she's my favorite (and only) clubbing buddy! Nevertheless, I'm absolutely convinced that this relationship would be murder in marriage. ENFPs are overly complex, ISTJs are shockingly simple (NOT an insult). There isn't enough stimulation for the ENFP and too much for the ISTJ.

Simple as in:?
My dad is ENFP, I wouldn't say he is that complex

phoenix13 · 05-04-2008, 11:44 PM

Hey, sorry for the delay.
By complex, I mean openness to complication. As far as what that is... I'm including shades of gray, nuances, if you will, as well as the conflicts that arise from them. I love that stuff... thrive in it. My buddy doesn't like it, and takes precautions to avoid it. It's probably just an NP vs SJ thing.

04-05-2008, 08:06 AM	#15 (permalink)
Hexis Ich Bin Das Bose Join Date: May 2007 Type: ENFP Location: Houston, Tx Posts: 1,248	Like Dewey said we get along great, and how your qoute was talking about an INTJ's interaction with an ENFP can be like that of an anchor is very true in my oponion. One of my other best friends is Meta and we get along great as well and hes an INTJ. And when you put all three of us in the same room we will almost never stop talking about all kinds of stuff. __________________ Strength, Determination, Merciless Forever

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03-06-2008, 06:31 PM	#11 (permalink)
Butterfly Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Type: ENFP Posts: 198	I like ISTJs, because of their groundedness. They are calm, practical and helpful. You know, gentleman types. I have respect for them.

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whittykailey Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Type: ENFP Location: Kentucky Posts: 1	I'm an ENFP and I have a really close friend who is an ISTJ. I love her to death. I think that our differences are so funny at times, but she is always there for me and I love that about her. We always end up doing the funniest things, because I get funny ideas and she helps me follow through with them (not my strong suit)! So I love being close to someone so different from me, it makes life so much more enjoyable. So all you ISTJs out there: You Rock. I have no idea where you get your patience and how you can get so much done without getting other ideas on your mind!!

03-09-2008, 05:50 AM	#13 (permalink)
Nameless Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Type: ENFP Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 104	My roommate is an INTJ and we get along really really well...we often have opposite ways of looking at things, but are both always able to completely understand where the other person is coming from, so we can both be ourselves and appreciate each other for it. With ISTJs, though (and I know a lot of these being an engineer), it seems like they are often more attracted to me than I am to them. I can see what makes them tick, but it is much harder for me to relate to it than with the INTJs.

04-15-2008, 09:13 PM	#16 (permalink)
chris1207 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Type: ENFJ Location: Washington State Posts: 227	Apparently there's a magic that exists there that doesn't for ISTJ's and ENFJ's. I've known two. ISTJ's have a way of complaining about never having enough money and yet turning around and spending 180 on dvds in one trip to Fredmeyer. They're so awkward socially and while that's something that I often gravitate towards they are beyond help. They don't understand that you can't just get all excited about stuff you talk about and then to turn a cold shoulder on subject matter that other people introduce. It takes the wind out of their sails and makes them want to be around you a whole lot less. Overall, I'd say that ISTJ's and INTJ's are big old EPIC PHAILZ in the sociability department...

04-19-2008, 12:42 AM	#18 (permalink)
phoenix13 Accepted! Join Date: Apr 2008 Type: ENFP Location: Maryland, USA Posts: 1,019	My two best friends are ISTJ and INFP. Interestingly, I'm far closer to the ISTJ... probably because she's really good at initiating contact. She's the best friend one could ever have (fulfills all her friendly duties). We always have a blast, and she's my favorite (and only) clubbing buddy! Nevertheless, I'm absolutely convinced that this relationship would be murder in marriage. ENFPs are overly complex, ISTJs are shockingly simple (NOT an insult). There isn't enough stimulation for the ENFP and too much for the ISTJ.

05-04-2008, 11:44 PM	#20 (permalink)
phoenix13 Accepted! Join Date: Apr 2008 Type: ENFP Location: Maryland, USA Posts: 1,019	Hey, sorry for the delay. By complex, I mean openness to complication. As far as what that is... I'm including shades of gray, nuances, if you will, as well as the conflicts that arise from them. I love that stuff... thrive in it. My buddy doesn't like it, and takes precautions to avoid it. It's probably just an NP vs SJ thing.