SJ's as complainers.

[Lookin4theBestNU]

Originally Posted by saslou

I don't mind constructive criticism but i will not stand by and let someone poke and rip my character to shreads.

So you felt that someone pointing out martyr behavior to you was ripping your character to shreds? Or that my response to your thread was? Sorry, not exactly sure what you mean by this statement.

[saslou]

Originally Posted by iwakar

I'm curious about the book as well. I'd actually read the entire thing as opposed to cherry-picking for ammo.

Very good read, it is by Eve Delunas. It is from 1992 so you will pay a pretty price for it. Well worth it though (i got mine from amazon and its a signed copy, great, lol)

Originally Posted by Lookin4theBestNU

So you felt that someone pointing out martyr behavior to you was ripping your character to shreds? Or that my response to your thread was? Sorry, not exactly sure what you mean by this statement.

No, got me wrong there. You spoke about 'martyr' which got me thinking.
Then you mentioned how some people didn't mind you 'talking about possible faults in their character' or whatever. Then i replied about the not minding constructive criticism but dislike having my character ripped to pieces.

Phew. Hope that cleared that one up.

I was giving an opinion on what you said is all.

[wrldisquiethere]

Originally Posted by saslou

Worried - plagued with terrible worries and fears of bad things that may happen.

Doormat - Allowing themselves to be stepped on by others while behaving as lowly servants.

Depressed - filled with sadness, everythings dark and dreary with no hope.

These are the ones I can relate to during my low times.

[saslou]

Thats whats really good though about this book.

Now we are able to recognise some of our behaviours, the next time it happens, we can try and have better control over it. Like the book states sometimes in situations we need to play the game. That's OK, its the extremes and the consequences it can have not only on our lives but also on the lives of those around us that can make things difficult and ourselves unhealthy.

[EJCC]

Worrying = yes. (Before big deadlines, you'll often hear me say things like "I'm concerned. I don't know if I'm PREPARED!")
Depressed = occasionally.
Nagging = OH yeah.
The rest = not so much.

I would REALLY like to think that I don't complain (genuinely). Whenever I do, it's in a self-deprecating way that's only half sincere, to make people laugh.