What should I trust rather than my eyes? How much of the time?
My understanding is that you are trying to elevate yourself above people ot withdrawn from people so that they won't be able to harm\control you, and you are rationalizing this by telling yourself that you are superior to them so that your ego won't get bruised.
IxTPs do this by assuming they are superior to other people and withdraw inside and refuse to contact others cause others are feeble\stupid\weak etc. ExTJs do this by projecting their will and controlling their environment and the people in it.
If you are withdrawing inside outside home, you are an IxTP. If you are trying to control people and see them as peons\pawns, then you are an ExTJ.