No way she is ISTJ . I'd need to hear an extremely well thought out argument for that. She enjoys freaking people out way too much; she used to enjoy telling a story of how she pooped in her boyfriend's cornflakes cuz she was pissed off at him.
I'm a huge fan of her, & have read nearly every interview with her, all of her old blog/online diaries, & know tons about her. She's an ENFx, and I'm leaning towards ENFP.
I also think her bandmate Duke is an IxTJ, and they have the ENFP-IxTJ chemistry happening. They used to be the closest in the band, but then had a falling out.
How is this not a feeler?
Someone once told me, "Shirley your feelings are highjacking your brain. It's holding a gun against your head and you are paralyzed by your feelings. Nobody cares about your feelings. Your feelings don't mean shit." And it took a mile for that penny to drop. And she's right. She said, "You keep running up against the wall, banging your head against the wall, turning around and you're all bloody and you're wondering why nothing has changed. You need to change your mind and you need to walk behind the wall. Just change your mind, walk around the wall. The wall won't change. You change."
If your feelings are leading you to a good place that's one thing, but if your feelings are leading you to complete inertia or depression or whatever it is then something has to change and you can change it. That's easier said than done.
CBV: How long were you a cutter and how did you get past it?
SM: About two years. That was part of my teenage development. And, then I joined a band and found a way of articulating what was going on inside and found an outlet to let it out. As an adult I realized I was a very hypersensitive child and I'm still hypersensitive. And, I grew up in a family where that was seen as a negative and I've come to realize it was a great gift.
Last night I woke up in the middle of the night and I thought to myself " I need to find a way to make my life exciting again" and I really meant it but when I woke up this morning I wasn't quite so sure I was certain of my own meaning and how I was going to attend to it.How do you make your life exciting? And what exactly IS exciting anyway?!?!?!