Sounds like the backlash against the show's popularity is only continuing to increase. But I suppose it is what it deserved, considering it was overhyped to begin with.
I wish I'd watched the show more than once or twice, to get a feel for her, to make sure a lot of rants here aren't just from type mismatch. But just from what I've garnered in the press, she's domineering and took control of everything... and Jon's screwed up in his own ways, by letting her emasculate him, he's passive, dumped everything on her via passivity, and was in essence just one more kid for her to care for... although she liked it. They're quite the symbiotic couple.
So what do we expect, if Jon tries to shift the power balance at this stage of the marriage and in the public limelight to boot? He's never done that before, so he's not handling things well... and since she's feeling protective of the kids and her way of life, she's digging in. It's like watching the inevitable train wreck, and you can see exactly where it's going to do end up... because they're human and ruled by both good and bad impulses.
Barring the bias PM is trying to claim in this thread, I've dealt with ESFJ people (and I considered them friends) who were really screwed up to the point where they behaved this way, and even one of my good ESFJ friends now here might love kids and work to help people... but at the same time it doesn't mean she wants people in her space and would not be adverse at all to saying stuff like this, nor does she want to be a hostess... she can do it, but it annoys her. And she sure as heck is NOT estj... not in the least.
There's a lot of variety out there, some of it natural/benign and some of it due to various dysfunctions/environmental factors people grew up with, and when you get into closed/cloistured religious community, the pressure for one's own personality to change in some way is immense... but this causes distortion. Typing people is tricky. It's about overall pattern matching, not symptom matching.