My husband is an INTJ. If I remember correctly, he is a 1w9. I am mostly an INTP. I'm not sure whether we are an exception to a commonality or the rumor is wrong, but we get along pretty well.
I never get the thing that they say INTJs are difficult to get along with INTPs, neither I do understand the myth that INTJs get along well with ESFJs. Personally, an INTP seems like a person I would like to talk to, while communication with ESFJs wears me off.