Yes, another feminism thread. It's a complex topic.
I'm a Midwestern girl. I'm going to community college for criminal justice. I have a conceal carry permit and plan on owning a gun soon. I've never gone clubbing, had a vodka soda, or worn six inch heels, but I have been fishing (catch and release), shooting (target practice), and hiking plenty of times. I would choose nu-metal over the top 40 literally any day. I'm not on instagram or snapchat. Sure, I like cute things and am on the sensitive side, but I think it's fair to say that I am a bit more traditionally "masculine" than the average girl. So when I first asked myself if I should be a feminist, my answer was, "of course." I was tired of being seen as weak because of my gender, so why wouldn't I support a movement that empowers women?
Since then, I've flip-flopped between liking feminism and hating it. This was not very surprising, as I'm pretty sure I have 4 in my tritype and my entire self-image can change at a moment's notice. I dismissed it as indecisiveness, but recently, I started to notice something that surprised me: a lot of famous "tough women" do not identify as feminists, despite being obviously for female empowerment.
Take Ronda Rousey for example. If you look at her body, she is literally proof that women are not inherently weak (a favorite argument of anti-feminist men). She even made a statement declaring that her muscular body is not masculine, but "femininely bad-ass as fuck." She also said that she is not the type to want to be taken care of by a man. Despite this, she does not actually identify as a feminist. The same can be said for several strong-willed, outspoken women such as Megyn Kelly (who argued with Erick Erickson over his claim that mothers should not work) and Tomi Lahren. These tough women seem to view feminism as a movement that gives women special treatment, rather than empowering them.
One thing that these women have in common is that they all believe in working hard instead of having things handed to you (or being a "do-nothing bitch," as Rousey likes to say). It raises the question of whether feminism is really about empowerment. Many feminists choose college majors like women's studies and social work over things like business, journalism, CJ, anything STEM-related, or skipping college altogether and learning a trade. From my perspective, it seems like feminism is becoming more elitist than empowering. Like most social justice movements that are prevalent on sites like Tumblr, it is about knowing the right buzzwords and terminology more than standing out and being an example.
I have two questions. The first one is for women who think of themselves as tough, badass, masculine, non-traditional, or anything similar: should we be supporting the feminist movement? Is it hurting us or helping us? Do you personally identify as a feminist, anti-feminist, egalitarian, men's rights activist, or something else?
And, the second, for anti-feminist men: What do you think of the women who can keep up with you? The ones who are self-sufficient, outspoken, hard-working, strong, logical, and can (probably) drink you under the table? Do you respect them? Do you think they are trying to "be men" or simply being themselves? I have been wanting to ask this for a long time because I see a lot of NT men on here bashing feminism, which I find confusing because NT women are the epitome of non-traditional femininity.