I respect your opinion and I see some value in what you're saying. I'm a feminist which feels odd calling myself one. I've debated my identity with myself intensely the last 2 years because of my feminist label. I'm not going into discussing why I'm one; I thought it was only fair for my personal view be stated before getting on with my point. The basic fact is: there is a 3rd wave of feminism. A reoccurring attempt of finding resolution between gender inequality/personal identity/bias etc. A common belief of feminism is; gender inequality holds us back from advancing in multiple different areas of life. It's like having an animal fall into extinction. This is going to cause some sort of damage, and affect other organisms differently. If reoccurring issues keep happening due to the main factor of gender inequality/personal identity/bias ,maybe were not recognizing it correctly. I do believe you can have a balance between masculinity and femininity for a more attuned functioning society. I feel like were suppressing a natural evolution of feminine traits. is this right or wrong? it's neither it's been happening for a while since the beginning of time. So for anyone to believe feminism to be derailing and causing issues in today's world isn't wrong. There is also extreme contradiction stigma between feminists and almost a subculture of differing feminist views that are just revenge tactics disguised as false hope.
I really don't think we are far away from solving between masculine and feminine neutrality, and it's hard to explain or see the easy big picture. everyone is a political activist in a sense now, and feels compelled to deem things right or wrong/label them. But I think the feminist labeled is needed, because it's true we are a unbalanced society. But within this label comes massive problems and misinterpretations. It's like a huge cluster f***. But this conflict allows us to see VALUABLE opinions on a topic that needs the gossip to help stop gossip. But how do you fight fir with fire? you finally realize you're the one who can put it out after having enough of it.
Am I annoyed with feminism? Yes. Do I love feminism? yes. I really do not like labels, because of the never ending head ache of people trying to give it their own personal definition to deem what is right or what is wrong. But Feminism needs to be prominent, and is coming back 3 times for a reason. I know other bad movements have attempted to make comebacks multiple times and never worked. but, people are uncomfortable with not being socially accepted. This is just mass acceptation, and being accepted is hard to recognize/feel.
Also I don't believe a major cause like feminism is causing all those problems, you could argue that with any major social change. There is always going to be negative and positive effects. Skewed by perspective and finalized ignorant judgments. But I do love your opinion, because it is meaningful. I know this sounds cliche, but it's just apart of the process.