My experience of those who call themselves feminists has been usually of the more radical kind. I would think it quite hard to assess a movement by its 'sedentary and relaxed' members, given that they are least likely to participate in any feminist activism if they are so relaxed.
There are exceptions, such as those who make a point of being 'equity' feminists like Christina Hoff Summers. However, she is an older figure nowadays. Younger people interested in equality of the sexes who share Hoff Summers' viewpoints tend to call themselves Egalitarians or Humanists now.
I absolutely agree that some first wave feminism is needed in many first world countries where women don't have equal rights with men.
Ah, I haven't read his later comments. What did you find?