"Culture of fear" maybe, emphasizing the fear that women have to live with every day? From my reading, and my own experience, I find that explaining that fear inspires the "You have to put up with THAT?! Every day?!" response, along with possible comments along the lines of, "I'm gonna have a word or two with my buds on how they talk with you or about you." Take advantage of the natural protective instincts of men towards women!
And you're prolly right on my Ni+9. I'm shifting gears in a few different ways, trying to synthesize perspectives. Thank you for prompting me with this question, it really helped solidify a few things in my mind.