This vomit makes me want to vomit. It's some myopic point of view of a problem that doesn't address anything. Privilege shouldn't be an issue, there should be no guilt for being successful, but society, any society, is made better by being one of those people who gives less privileged privilege. Pass it on. It makes more people with no incentive to steal your shit, because they have something worth staying out of jail for, and more people to not have to pay for room & board for. Teach 'em to fish, etc, yadda yadda yadda...
No, one doesn't. We're all on this planet together. And however much other people may frustrate you, they have a pulse, they suffer, they are in pain and they are frustrated - much like yourself. That means you too deserve empathy from the people who call you those things and who are failing due to having to deal with their own pain. And the only way to stop it is by actually getting passed all that 'me,me, me!!!' talk and past the frustration so that we stop wasting our energy on that and focus on actually removing some of that pain.
I get it though. It cannot be easy to non-stop be told you're the reason that *they* are suffering. Coz i doubt many of them can separate their frustrations enough not to lash out at someone like you. And it does get infuriating and annoying and eventually you do push back. It is only natural. But it doesn't solve anything. In fact, it just leads to more energy down the drain. That's where empathy comes in - where you realise that it aint about you, it's about them dealing with the lot that was dealt to them.
And Disco - their lot was objectively speaking a lot harder to deal with than yours. This aint your fault, but surely you can find it within to flex just a little until the tipping scales have been evened so they can regain some strength for the next battle. No one is saying you need to validate their need to blame - but just showing some measure of acknowledgement that their life compared to yours might not be fair will go a long way.
That's all this is about.
Similarly, you *should* be able to vent about this crap coz even a musquito bite a day gets bloody annoying to the point where you need to be able to bitch about it, and that in and of itself should definitely be acknowledged as well. They're not the only ones in pain, or frustrated with reality. And as good as you may have it compared to them, it doesn't mean that your struggles or accomplishments are worth any less time - and I know some people have told you differently. They are wrong.
In the end though, you're bitching about the same thing - dealing with life. Use that common ground to come together and deal with the actual thing that is causing it instead of futily wasting your energy on inflicting more pain on each other that will just ricochet right back to you. There's enough of that to go around.
Now, does this mean you have to focus all your energy to solving other peoples problems, or listening to them even? No - that aint your gift in this world. And there is no reason to actually become that person. You have enough potential in other areas that you can help them indirectly by just being yourself. But a simple acknowledgement when these things happen will help soothe their frustration *AND* yours and create a bridge of understanding when it happens. That's all. Consider it a tool in your toolkit that you occasionally dust off, if you will.