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    In the sense that you describe it, yes I am afraid of kids. I'm not that scared of talking to them, but if they try to engage me physically, I get really scared and don't know what to do. One time this little girl wrapped herself around my leg and started humping me like a dog, and I was mortified.

    My mom is an educator and is always telling me horror stories about male teachers getting accused of stuff, so I'm super paranoid now.

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    i wonder if some men, not all, but some are afraid of kids because of culture saying that men are often pedofiles if they play with kids that aren't their own?
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    Not a man, but I'm going to answer this anyway; children (or rather the concept of children)intimidate me, I barely know how to deal with people my own age/older than me, plus there's also the whole drooling, dirt, and whatnot, which I find gross. I have no idea what I'll do if/when I have kids, probably hire a nanny or something to wipe their noses for me. I do find children cute, but only when they are at least two feet away from me and not crying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    i wonder if some men, not all, but some are afraid of kids because of culture saying that men are often pedofiles if they play with kids that aren't their own?
    That's basically the op, silly goose--er chicken.

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    Inside, I really wanted to be friendly and say, "Hi little guy. What's your name?". However, I was terrified to do this, because now-a-days everyone is so paranoid about sex offenders that I didn't want people to get the wrong idea about me. It seems like in the current time, in which we live, people will automatically assume that you are a predator, if you do so much as even talk to a child without an adult around. Also, if you are convicted of being a child predator, then you will become a sex offender.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever_Jung View Post
    That's basically the op, silly goose--er chicken.
    good point. I obviously don't read carefully.
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    Quote Originally Posted by prplchknz View Post
    good point. I obviously don't read carefully.
    I do that too sometimes. I don't have very good concentration.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever_Jung View Post
    I do that too sometimes. I don't have very good concentration.
    me either
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    I have kids, so... no. There's a lot of common sense that goes into interacting with kids. You do have to enforce your personal boundaries if they're being little jerks, you can be playful about it, but this is a skill set, really. You have to be very careful with kids that you don't know, because even though their parents might allow their kids to be obnoxious they may not react well to you telling their children to stop being obnoxious, if you don't take the right tact. I can see why this is intimidating.

    I don't engage with stranger's kids, but I will wave, smile or have a short convo if they engage with me.

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    I'm not afraid of kids. I come from a large family. I have 7 siblings and I'll probably have at least twice as many nieces and nephews. But I won't touch a stranger's child, ever. I might smile or wave, but I'll keep my distance. The risk is simply too great. One accusation is all it takes for your life to be permanently fucked up.

    I know someone this has happened to. There's a man I know who was accused of "improper touching" by his step daughter at the time. This man is one of the genuinely nicest people I've ever met. He's really naive, kind of child-like. He's never been officially diagnosed as autistic, but I wouldn't be surprised to find out he is mildly autistic someday. Anyway, this step daughter accused him of touching her and now he's on a sex offender registry. He can't get off the list even though the step daughter (since becoming an adult) admitted she made up the accusation because she didn't like the fact that her mom had married him. Being on the sex offender registry has absolutely destroyed his life. He has no career anymore and he's terrified to be around children now because another false accusation sends him to prison.

    If something that fucked up can happen to someone that nice who did absolutely nothing wrong, I think it's safer to just keep my distance.
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    Jesus christ american society is fucked up.
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