And, while it is natural and fine for you to feel that way.. How do I help protect friends and colleagues from their own bad decisions (i.e. dating a shit girlfriend trying to beat the shit out of them via taking advantage of that stereotype) when this absolutely IS a real factor? I mean.. Men really are in a catch-22 here.
1. If they hit the woman, they quickly become the abuser. It only takes one bruise manifesting to change a story.. and I wouldn't put it past any woman willing to hit their dates/boyfriends to flip the script as soon as opportunity calls.
2. If they do nothing, or try to walk away, or allow another woman to step in so that the societal playing grounds are now 'even' in the eyes of the quick-to-judge... they're somehow not men anymore..
That isn't how I would ever ever view them.. but how society as a whole does? Yeah, that's a real possibility.
I'm sure no one wants to see anyone they care for in a real fight. Ever.And if I'm getting beat to death, a part of me would absolutely want my lady to jump in and try to help, but perhaps (and I can't say as I've never been in this situation) I would NOT want her to, for fear of her safety.
I'm not sure if some people realize that manlier men, get a very real overwhelming sensation of self-sacrifice to protect those they love.
But men are not the only gender to get overwhelming self-sacrificing behaviors when protecting those they love, for the record. That instinct is ingrained in both sexes, though women do display it more frequently towards children protection than towards male protection.