We keep frequent tabs on my nephew's biological father because of horrifying circumstances. And sometimes keeping tabs on those people requires being nice and kind to people you don't really like for the sake of having necessary information for safety concerns. It's a precaution worth taking. I wouldn't blame someone that stopped talking to the mother for being nice to the family of the father because of principles of "omg, he did that and you still talk to the family!? Ugh!" .. But those people probably aren't people that are close to our family and love us anyways, so .. their opinion matters very little. This way, we can live relatively peacefully, and still maintain the most important thing--the safety of the children of our family.
My point is just to show that even in bad circumstances, completely cutting someone off isn't always the best option.
Maybe so. It'd have to be an incident that endangers safety of myself or a loved one, or did something absolutely horrifying, for me to cut out someone I considered friend once. It's happened before.. but it isn't frequent, and it doesn't sit right with me when it does.Well if that consisted of not approving of my liberal lifestyle or something, I might think that was too extreme. In any case, that's a good point. But if I did something truly awful I would expect people to not want to associate with me. Maybe it's an Fe/Fi thing? Probably. I agree either can take its perspective too far.