cafe mentioned, that means the person is not respecting her ownership of her body and essentially implies he believes on some level that he is entitled to it. He believes he can "persuade" her to let him share it whether kissing, touching, viewing nude or sex, when that doesn't really mean consent but often means she just gives in to keep the peace of because she doesn't have enough energy to keep resisting, or for some other reason. Even if she sort of wants to, if she doesn't completely want to he hasn't "persuaded" her into giving full consent, he has bullied her into accepting his claims to her by giving up part of her autonomy.
Edit: Most opinions which may come across as paranoid are shared by a lot of feminists at the academic level who have studied these concepts sociologically, looked at statistics, and probably experienced sexual assaults themselves or had friends and relatives who have.
There's nothing paranoid about having people earn your trust. That's not automatically being afraid of men, which I'm not unless I don't like their vibe, or being afraid of intimacy. It just means allowing time to properly assess someone before I evaluate whether I can trust them.