A very abbreviated expression of my opinion.
I don't agree that men are excessively suspected or criticized for this. What I have seen indicates a great number of men are still sadly inconsiderate of these things.
I do agree that there is an unreasonable tone of zero accountability for women and a pressure not to ask questions.
I add something that I was surprised to not find in this article, which is that such messages are perhaps as or more irresponsible and insulting to women as men.
I found the "don't be that girl" campaign surprisingly inoffensive (based on what I expect from mens' rights people) but I do think the statement might be something of a straw man argument. How significant are such scenarios, really? It's not the most valid counter to the "don't be that guy poster".
I do seriously doubt the actual use of such a poster campaign either way. I don't think anyone likely to commit sexual assault or rape is going to give them much consideration.