I think when more and more reports of this happening between men come to light there could be some sort of a change in popular opinions and not until then, people are to be used and objectified in that way, they arent things, acting that way IS rape. No ifs, no ands, no buts, no maybes. Simple as.
There's a lot of the things which I've seen online and circulated in mens magazines of what "friends" have done to one another, usually the drunkest member of their party, which I think are so degraging and disgusting as to border on this level of abuse. The crazy thing about it is that I've often thought that the people totally drunk in the pictures could be dealing with some sort of trauma from what has happened already and then their "friends" act like that, its totally and utterly disgusting. Even if there's no trauma involved that's someone who has obviously trusted that individual and been betrayed in an absolutely atrocious fashion.
The problem I think is that at some level the horror of this jars people, on some existential level, so if they havent hardened their hearts already they do start to and identify with the prepetrators because psychologically it makes them feel safe imagining they wont ever be a victim because they are the victimiser or can identify with them instead.
World needs to grow the fuck up and contain this sort of things and positively roll it back. Lets see pictures of how people helped people out who were at risk and not exploited it.