I stumbled across this a while ago and had been musing about posting it, my reluctance to do so was because i felt i would be opening the very real experiences of myself and other women to ridicule. More so than when we recount them and are told to "not make such a big deal about it."
I'm sorry, but harassment and intimidation and feeling like you are 'less than' IS a big deal. It's so entrenched that i don't think people realise they are doing it.
The feeling that when i walk past a strange man or group of men i have to keep my eyes down and think to myself "please don't say anything, please don't say anything" isn't right.
So, fuck it. I'm going to link the shit out of this and i'm going to share some stuff that is apparently me 'making a big deal out of nothing.'
I know this is probably going to get trolled, and i know i'm going to be told I'm 'over-reacting' or 'being hysterical', things to make me feel like i am less than, and always will be.
I guess this is why i still believe we need feminism.
Some things i find unacceptable that happen too often to even try and catalogue:
- From little things like a strange man at a bus stop telling me to "smile, you're too pretty to frown"
- Cars following me and beeping at me while walking home,
- An incident where a guy actually got in my car at a stop light to give me his number, because i was 'pretty'.
- To being told by my 11 grade math teacher that i would be 'barefoot and pregnant by 21' if i chose a life in the arts (this was after i had dropped out of the hardest streams of math as although i was good at them, i ultimately found them boring),
- Being told by a 10th grade guidance councillor that i wasn't smart enough for my science based future goal (because i was female) and i should do something that 'better suited a female temperament'.
- a Guy coming into my work (LAST YEAR) and as i was getting a beer from the fridge for him, he grabs me and kisses me on the back of my neck because 'i look like i might be into it'
- Feeling like it's MY fault
- Having a worker on my parents fruit block position himself between me and the door to get into my own house and expose his penis and testicles to me. I was TWELVE feeling ashamed because maybe i shouldn't have worn shorts
- Cat calls
- Working at McDonalds at 16 and being told on drive through to "GET YOUR TITS OUT LUV!!"
- Being groped in public places.
I could go on, and on, and on.
cat calls and wolf whistles <--- thread covering this before.
Edit: Laura's project is called "The everydaysexism project', which encompasses harassment and sexism from both men and women to women. I also do not discount that it can go towards men, however, proportionately the number is much smaller that way.