Interesting post. I've never been much of a girly girl. Growing up it made it hard to fit in with the girls and the boys didn't want a girl hanging around. So among my girl friends I always felt like the odd ball. I've always had more boy friends than girl friends. That made selecting bridesmaids a pain in the rear. I digress...
I'm a fairly competitive person.... I used to get upset when my girl friends would get hit on in a bar and I wouldn't. I swear it got so bad, I kept finding the lowest cut shirts, tightest pants, or shortest shorts possible. In fact, I got down right depressed about it when nothing I did worked...until I was talking to a guy who had a crush on me. He told me that the reason guys (himself included) never approached me in a bar is because I just have a look about me that screams challenge... And a guy in a bar isn't looking for a challenge, they want easy. Now, whether there is truth to that or if that's just redneck logic, who knows, but it made me feel better.
What I hate the most is the "mommy wars." That's the competition I refuse to compete in. It seems like once you become a parent, you become the center of so much judgment. It doesn't matter what decision you make, someone thinks its the wrong one.
Oh, you put your baby in your bed to sleep? What, are you trying to suffocate her? Oh you made your baby sleep in her crib from day one? What don't you love her and care about her enough to keep her in your room to make sure she's okay? You didn't cloth diaper your baby? Don't you care about the planet? You cloth diapered your baby? You must be a hippie.It's always something when it comes to parenting. That's why I tend to avoid topics about how we handled certain things.
In general, I'm not interested in the same things my girl friends are. They enjoy fashion, and I'm content in jeans, tshirts, and chucks. About the only time I'm the chatty one in my group is when we are talking about Dexter or other shows we have a common interest in! I guess if it weren't for our drinking days I may never have ended up being friends with the few girls that I am friends with. Why am I still friends with them? Because for all of the things we don't have in common....we've all been super loyal and there for each other when we really needed it. To me that quality in a person really makes up for the lack of shared interests.
To be honest, I'd be curious what the men think that we think... Judging from some comments my best friend told me... I'd say that the general assumption is that we are all catty and overly competitive with each other. Maybe I was that way in my 20s, but in my 30s I just can't find the ability to give a damn anymore.