Women are more likely to have BPD or Histrionic and men more likely to be Antisocial or Narcissistic. They're all cluster B peresonality disorders. I have been diagnosed as Histrionic in the past and I think my more "empowered" male mirror may be a Narcissist (female narcissists are rarer, but typically have been more empowered to have a sense of entitlement that histrionic women don't have). It would also explain why they (narcissists) frustrate me on such an intimate and profound level, but in rare cases may even attract me.
Sometimes women with BPD are batterers, though; Theresa Knorr is pretty much the ultimate example of this. I think if she were a man she would have been diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder; she didn't care about people, systematically murdered her own daughters out of sexually jealousy, shot her first husband and got off on "self-defense"...but she's classified as BPD (like the worst case I've EVER heard of BPD, ever,in my life) because unlike the Antisocial Personality, she knew how to appear "normal" or adapt socially on the outside. Also, most of her rage was fueled over sexual jealousy, even in the case of shooting her first husband.
I think a lot of it is socialization, just manipulating biological impetus to gross and exaggerated forms.