Read this Aphrodite ... https://sites.google.com/site/upatel8/personlitytype9
How much does that resonate with you?
From the link:
Nines grow by recognizing that the more they seek peace of mind by turning away from conflicts and problems, the greater is the likelihood that they will bring about disturbances in their lives and relationships. Their avoidance of conflicts causes others to have conflicts with them. Growing Nines must also remember that they will never have union with anyone else unless and until they have union with themselves. If they are accommodating to a fault, they will eventually lose the other person because they have never possessed themselves. When they learn that self-assertion is not an aggressive act but a positive thing, Nines are in a position to truly bring peace and harmony to everyone in their environment.
To me, your idyllic example above illustrates neatly where the danger zone lies for a 9 ... and so can the surface of faith, in a way. (And I say that as a spiritual person who attends faith services regularly.) There's this ... complacency that a 9 can fall into, a place where we absolve ourselves of personal responsibility in the name of acquiescence ... maintaining the peace.