From this article -- inspired by @Domino, who suggested that a thread be created around it.
It all rings very true for me, and I know quite a few gay men who fall into this every once and a while. After I lost five or ten pounds one summer, one of my best friends, who is gay but not flamboyant at all, gave me a long lecture about how I should not have lost the weight, and now I look worse than I did, and I had better not lose more weight. I was surprised that even my non-flamboyant, generally respectful, extremely feminist gay friend would fall into this mindset regarding male ownership of women's bodies, but there it was.
Thoughts from the forum?