Is it even a question worth asking?It is quite difficult to answer the underlying question in this topic: To what extent do males who are gay benefit from male privilege? This is a complex question without a single answer I suspect.
I would have said that until quite recently, it was a fear of a loss of privilege/status/acceptance that kept gay men leading tortured existences in the closet. If it is now possible for them to come out without losing those things, I call that progress, since it points to increased tolerance, and that has to be good for everyone.
I don't really get it either, but I don't doubt it can be an authentic way of being.Since society has a sort of a stereotypical mold for what a gay man looks/acts/sounds like I would think that some guys out their feel like they have to imitate that to fit in. Just like some women feel they have to imitate certain ideas of femininity.
I'm probably biased though. Most "feminine" traits ring false to me coming from women let alone men. It's probably that I "just don't get it".
There are clear cultural (as well as individual) variations in what is considered normal or acceptable in terms of personal space violations. You might shake someone's hand in one country as a greeting, bow in another or kiss them 4 times in yet another. I see the discomfort some women have expressed here in that light - just a clash of cultural norms. I personally have never had the inclination to go to a gay club/bar, simply because that scene isn't appealing to me and I might well be sending the wrong messages just by being there. When in Rome...