Quote Originally Posted by Etherea View Post
This type 2 needs to integrate so she doesn't feel so selfish
Don't be so hard on yourself. I would say that pretty much everyone requires something or the other in return.

Requiring a little appreciation for giving doesn't make you selfish or anything like that.

2's are the true givers of the Enneagram and giving with only expecting appreciation in return is fair game.

Even Mother Theresa's giving wasn't entirely selfless --- It can be rationalized that she was doing it for spiritual self-attainment and appeasement of God - which is close to self-less, but if one gives in this world in order to achieve Heaven in the after-life, then their giving isn't entirely selfless is it?