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    I kind of feel sorry for the kid.

    As normal as it may seem for breastfeeding, that picture is going to be up for ages to come.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    I always wonder what the next piece of bullshit will be that misuses attachment theory.

    Attachment styles are created in early life by a baby's first relationship, the brain patterns this earliest relationship on itself, its a combination of nurture (or its lack) and nature to try and increase the survival prospects of the child. Its generally pre-verbal and what you're doing as late as age three is less significant, although between the age of 0-5 are probably the most crucial years.
    Breastfeeding has a lot to do with secure attachment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nebbykoo View Post
    Breastfeeding has a lot to do with secure attachment.
    Your opinion is your opinion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    Your opinion is your opinion.
    Not my opinion. It has been established by research. You can probably google it.


    EDIT:
    I did a quick search. there are probably more:
    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1459116/

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    Quote Originally Posted by nebbykoo View Post
    Not my opinion. It has been established by research. You can probably google it.
    I can probably google it? Hmm, sounds like good well known research and not your opinion then.

    Read many books on this topic or received any specialist training or, you know, just googled it to reach these conclusions?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    I can probably google it? Hmm, sounds like good well known research and not your opinion then.

    Read many books on this topic or received any specialist training or, you know, just googled it to reach these conclusions?
    I have read books about it. I also use the internet to find information. Any other questions?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PeaceBaby View Post
    Arguably, and ironically, that could be because of a lack of adequate attachment to those closest to us in infancy.
    i'm sure there are cases of this as well.. my mind was more on the train of thought of the normal everyday things we see in society though. Even in 'normal' families, the 'baby' of the siblings tends to act more immature, gets away with more, and is more dependent or free-spirited.. and parents tend to baby them more and coddle them much later into their childhood than the other children. It seems a normal, natural stereotype to us.. so I was more thinking of that principle being taken even further.

    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post
    While I agree with you that many people who are approaching adult hood and who already are adults are babied or spoiled, I disagree with you saying adults feel alone, abandoned, or dependent because of too much nurture.

    If anything, it's actually because of a lack of cohesion in society, the sky-rocketing divorce rate, the loss of extended family ties, the phenonmenon of single living, and a perception that people should be somehow superhuman and autonomous and not need a community, a family, or a spouse.
    I'm sure I don't even begin to understand why people have a rampant sense of loneliness and fear of abandonment.. it's probably a slew of things all thrown together in an awful shit stew. I was more referring to what I stated above.. More along the lines of a simple 'My sister acts childish and we didn't baby her much outside of the ordinary.. I can't imagine if we had allowed child-like activities and behavior well past the necessary stage'.

    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post
    I think the problem is that children are getting too much of what they want and not enough of what they actually need.

    Children actually need a sense of discipline, limits, and self-efficacy...and they also need love, support, and security.

    I'm not a Catholic but Mother Theresa was DEAD ON when she said the greatest disease of the West was that people have too much materially, but not enough spiritually (which can be translated by a non-religious person as not enough psychologically and emotionally).

    You can baby a young adult, deprive them of a sense of self-sufficiency and spoil them with material things, but deprive them of their deepest psychological and emotional needs.

    Spoiled, selfish little children aren't the result of too much love, nurturing, or family...they're the result of people who try to replace love, nurturing and family with THINGS and FUN.
    I liked this post a lot.

    I still wouldn't breastfeed a kid well past the age of practicality and nutrition.. but I'm not a mom either, so I don't think my opinion is worth much. It's not really abusive, so it's just.. weird to me in the end.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Orobas View Post
    For some reason I find this to be a very beautiful picture. Her eyes seem so full of love.
    Nursing makes you calm down (hormones that are released) So I'm not surprised she looks that great in that picture. That's a lovely picture. Although I never nursed two at a time, I focused just one one at a time.

    I had a friend who used to know when I was nursing when I was on the phone because I got all relaaaxxxeddd.

    Women's bodies are so awesome.

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    Two 25ml samples of human breast milk. The sample on the left is foremilk, the watery milk coming from a full breast. To the right is hindmilk, the creamy milk coming from a nearly empty breast.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Viridian View Post
    That's a pretty goofy-looking cover... Almost looks like the poster for a comedy film.
    Somewhere this month, Will Ferrell will be pitched this movie with him as the breasfeeding man-child.

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    I'm not a mother, I don't see the big deal though, except that time cover is oddly sexual.
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