You are assuming he is always strict and we don't have that information. Actually in his "apology" there are hints of him being primarily indulgent with his kids until it gets out of control. His "95% of the time she is [adjectives implying perfect] suggests to me that it is the percentage of the time she is treated with kid gloves and nurtured her feelings of entitlement. He has a list of chores, but we don't know if or how he enforces those.
Doing your own laundry especially as a young woman is pragmatic because often time girly clothes need special instructions and others can ruin them. The chores don't sound so bad to me. In a household with half-grown children it would seem enabling for the parents to earn all the money and do all the work. Maybe in some cultures kids get to just go to school, but that is a luxury most cannot afford. At least she's not homeschooled so she can work the farm 20 hours a week like some. I went to a farm-based high school and worked 20 hours a week on top of school.
I've worked with kids in highly controlling families and this is not how they act - at least when the control is heavy and consistent. Her action require some level of indulgence in order to take place. She has to be coddled quite a bit to have the level of expectations she has. Really high-control families are more often very secretive, unlikely to even have internet, and the kids are really high strung and serious, sometimes becoming very controlling with their younger siblings.