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    Default Women Seeking Sugar Daddies On The Rise in the US

    Here's the original article

    My initial thoughts were sex is such a lurid topic in the US and there is always a tinge of victim/pity angle in the mainstream press in regards to sex workers.

    I know that none of the women in the article necessarily said "feel sorry for me" but I was going to say "I don't".

    These are women headed for the upper middle class, they are educated, they have options. Sex work is a luxury for them and probably more than a bit of excitement. Not a dangerous, filthy necessity.

    'Kay, kinda extreme generalization, but you get my drift?

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    Doesn't that technically count as prostitution? Beyond that technicality though, it seems somewhat unfortunate for those whom are stuck in the dilemma of recent college graduates; many young adults are faced with absurd payments and loans, and with an economy that doesn't offer much in the way of oppertunity nor security, it can potentially force many to consider less than idal means of making cash. Although whoring oneself isn't all that new, as some college students go into stripping for the easy money that it brings in. What I have a problem with isn't the act itself, but the wretched circumstances of economic life that potentially force people into degrading acts that could harm them. Now true that doesn't apply to an individual, for example if I myself was ever faced with a $15,000 debt I'd gladly have free (albeit ugly) sex with someone to pay off such a loan in mere months. But I know for some that going to a sugar daddy or strip joint may cause prefound psychological effects on them, which isn't fair because there aren't many other easy options for them to go after. All in all though, I'd just at least hope (aside from the fact that people should have better means out of unfortunate financial situations) that these girls aren't punished for seeking out sugar daddies via legal prosecution.

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    No sympathy. To be honest, it sounds like an easy way out of debt and into a higher consumer bracket.

    "I'm not a whore... My situation is different in a number of different ways. First of all, I don't engage with a high volume of people, instead choosing one or two men I actually like spending time with and have decided to develop a friendship with them. And while sex is involved, the focus is on providing friendship. It's not only about getting paid."
    Sure it isn't. Sure.

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    I don't see anything wrong with it. I mean, I have my own personal judgement that would stop me from personally doing it.. but I say.. if you can sell your ass with no psychological damage or STD's.. who's business is it? Exqual exchange. Both parties know what they are going into.. fair is fair. ZERO EMPATHY.

    Now, say some sheisty bitch blows an 80 year old, then tries to take over his family fortune. I'd call BS. Or if some poor indebted student gets smacked in the face or beat up without an S & M agreement, theres a problem. Other than that.. I don't see the problem.

    Now... for me it always boils down to a "what kind of person will sell themselves for money?" question. This really comes back to how an individual perceives sex. If you perceive sex as some kind of deep, spiritual connection, a binding of souls, a power of intimacy.. then you probably shouldn't be selling your ass to keep you credit clean, or your priorities are rather fucked up. But if you think sex itself can be a random physical act with no real meaning, that is exaggerated and distorted by the masses, then sure..sell it. Is it really any different than selling 8 hours of your day to a cublicle farm? Much bigger bang for ones buck I think.
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    I've never seen a cubicle worker who had a little song and dance about how she wasn't a cubicle worker because she wore a little hat, and cubicle workers don't wear hats, and her boss is a very nice man and they're friends and shut up, okay?

    Never seen that.

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    I think this makes perfect sense in correlation with other socio-economic trends in the USA. It's quite typical that women become more likely to end up with men based on the man's resources the more you have things like poverty, inequality, poor health, bad education, etc...

    So everything checks out!
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    Who's ya Daddy?

    Sugar daddies are sweet and the only price we pay is our independence.

    And having fought the War of Independence the first thing we want is sugar, if that's OK with you daddy?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Savage Idealist View Post
    What I have a problem with isn't the act itself, but the wretched circumstances of economic life that potentially force people into degrading acts that could harm them.
    That's how I feel about MY job and I'm not even in the sex industry!
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    Do I feel bad for them? Yes. I would rather live on the streets than fuck some old, rich guy. Yuck. That's a big mistake. Sounds like a good deal to them, but.... I bet down the line, they will be sorry.
    Then again, I know some girls who have been doing it for awhile and are perfectly happy with the arrangement, so I do project.
    I suppose it just depends on who the girl is and what the situation is, as to whether I feel bad for them or not. Some women are roped into those situations, and are madly unhappy with them. Sometimes it takes awhile for the consequences to sneak up on them.... and boom.
    I feel bad for them if they are ignorant, foolish, or mental cases...... and all of the above graduates from college everyday, so that's not saying much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Offog View Post
    I've never seen a cubicle worker who had a little song and dance about how she wasn't a cubicle worker because she wore a little hat, and cubicle workers don't wear hats, and her boss is a very nice man and they're friends and shut up, okay?

    Never seen that.




    What song is that?

    I had to highlight a part about this article:

    Nistico found that some of the sugar babies used the excuse of the economic downturn for behavior she thinks they would still have otherwise condoned. "We concluded that people who say they have a sugar daddy to pay off their loans are people who would already contemplate being in that relationship if the economy was doing just fine," says Nistico
    This is what my "intuition" was telling me. I think sex work gets a bad rap and is often associated with outright exploitation, violence, and trafficking - which there is NO DOUBT a lot of. I think prostitution is often fundamentally unfair/degrading to women because they always end up under some man's or "The Man's" proverbial thumb (amongst other things). However, even sex work reflects the hierarchies of society. Meaning if you are educated, middle to upper middle class, white, etc. you get more and more agency, opportunities, leverage, etc. While on a shared spectrum, these cases of part-time escorts are so far removed from marginalized women forced to tricking in back alley corners or at greasy truck stops.

    This doesn't change the fact though that by virtue of having a vagina, women can always fall back on and are often reduced to their sexual parts.

    Also, there are about 30,000 young men registered on the mentioned website to look for 'sugar mommas'. There are about 8 times more women registered looking for sugar daddies. If I remember the numbers correctly.
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