I was a nanny first, and then a parent- as a nanny, I had to be able to be an authority figure without spanking the kids. Worked fine, so it just felt natural to keep doing it that was when I became a parent. It also just felt like many of the lessons I was teaching them, spanking them would have undermined the message. My kids are pretty well-behaved though. If I had a little punk I might change my tune.
I think screaming at kids is an OK way to go. It doesn't harm them, but it still frightens them. Don't do it in public, please....do it in your car.
Oh really? You've struck me as someone particularly representative of our social norms.
And you strike me as someone who puts way to much credence in what books and teachers tell them, to the point of blinding yourself to the real world.
Let's just leave our observations of one another out of this.
My guess is that you only think you aren't very affected. That's usually how it is.
I'll trust your perception of me about as far as you could throw me.
And given how big you are, and consequently how far you could throw me, I won't be putting very much weight on your observations.
Let's just agree to disagree on this one.
"doing it right"? Didn't realize there was an art to reaching over the car seat and flicking your fingers.
You have to put the fear of God into them. A half assed smack on the butt just doesn't cut it.
They have to know that this spanking is just level one and things can get way worse if they have to.
For instance, my father is a very very quiet man and doesn't do much of the punishing in our family. One day when, when I was in high school, I said something terribly disrespectful to my mom and he grabbed my arm as I walked by the couch he was laying on.
He pulled me in close and said in a terse whisper, "If I ever hear you talk that way to her again I swear to God you'll wish you hadn't till the end of your days."
Needless to say he's never, ever had to worry about that same problem again.
Your representative owes you, not his industry only, but his judgment; and he betrays, instead of serving you, if he sacrifices it to your opinion.
- Edmund Burke