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    Quote Originally Posted by nonsequitur View Post
    I decided to revisit this thread because I've finally read the book.

    The end is touching and although I wouldn't say that it's a "great" book, it's definitely a unique book in the sense that you can see the plain neuroticism of Amy Chua that's infused in every word. It's a little bit like reading a perfectionistic Asian Woody Allen as he sees the world and if he was raising kids.

    I think the book has definitely been mis-represented in the media as one of "Asian parents are better". In fact, if you read the book, particularly the end, you find that the author's views have changed quite a bit. Not her attitudes towards parenting, but definitely her approach has changed. I really liked it, specifically how she came to become a more consultative person, and how her kids responded in ways that were honest - not ways that they thought would please her.

    This passage in particular, I wish my own parents came around to understanding:
    I do think strict parenting is good, or atleast strict guidance. But the problem can be if you as a parent dont have any particular principles to guide from. Its easier when the kid is young to be strict, but as it begins to show signs of personality and the kid can say No, more strict individualized parenting is needed.

    EDIT: Strict in this sense means involvement, praise when needed, loving guidance when things go bad and so on. It was not meant as agreeing with the premise of psychological warfare.

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    Let's talk about Confucian upbringing!

    Sounds ideal.

    Why/why not?
    a cat is fine too

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    Quote Originally Posted by chachamaru View Post
    Let's talk about Confucian upbringing!

    Sounds ideal.

    Why/why not?
    Stop interfering!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenaphor View Post
    Stop interfering!
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