I, too, have a very close family member who was hideously and repeatedly violated. It was the boyfriend of one of my sisters. He broke a table with her back (yes that's what I said) while she was five months pregnant with my nephew. He also knocked my other sister unconscious, who coincidentally also preganant - with twins - and she miscarried. The sister who still remained conscious stabbed her boyfriend and he died.
I think she did the right thing. She probably wouldn't be here if she hadn't done so, and my nephew definitely wouldn't be.
I've also known more than my fair share of women who were molested. Perhaps it was the profession I was in, because it attracts those who are unlikely to remain stable in other jobs, and I know from being around those women that IT FUCKS THEM UP PERMANENTLY FOR LIFE...being molested as a child seems to be an actual cause of mental illness, not just sexual issues or something very mild that could easily be recovered from.
That's why I don't take a kind or forgiving view to a certain type of violator. I think they deserve zero compassion for the problems in society that they perpetuate, and creating a culture that attempts to "nurture" them I think possibly only will result in their thinking that what they do is sort of okay and acceptable, when it is extremely, extremely permanently damaging to the victims. I think too many child molesters get away with what they do to begin with.